Friends forever.. or something less?
WOW! A new entry so fast.. not because I am bored (believe me I am not) but because times have been a little crazy. Whether it be the cycle of life or simply the hormones kicking in it seems that things that I took for granted before, have made me question my part within life.
Question parts that may seem so simple but are infact more complicated then they seem such as friends and who they really are.
To me a friend has many qualities:
- A shoulder to lean on
- The piles of tissues within their pockets they can lend when a tear falls
- A sense of humor that keeps you going for hours
- A warm feeling that surrounds them
- Great Huggers
- Help you with anything you ask despite them not thinking its important
- Keeping to a promise and not being swayed by other people
- A great person to talk to in times of grief or despair
- Never leaves you alone. Always by your side
- Connections
- A warm stiring feeling
Okay.. so yes my list is quiet long and tedious, pulling at the little things like i always do.. Must be perfect in my eyes :) My list does seem long but all the points seem reasonable in their own way and some of them interlink.
As I look at this list it makes me think.. am I the perfect friend for others. OF COURSE! In fact i don't think I make any sort of friend at all.
1. Im not a hugger
2. Don't have soft shoulders to cry on
3. Im not funny
4. Most of the time I am alone in many ways being especially at lunch so not at Glen with friends.
So does this mean that if I AM NOT the perfect friend, does that mean that people shouldn't be back to me? After all people have their own best friends and I guess that a best friend comes over a friend which is somewhat understandable, but empty promises and lies makes me as well as others miserable because it suggests to me that I am not loved, not wanted within life, not a necessary member of society. (* this is not a suicide note for anyone who thought so*) .
It doesn't count as a reason to make what seems to be true, false and what seems not to be true, true. People go out during the holidays and don't invite me. Maybe it is somehow an immediate thought that I will say no and well probably it would be but at least the feeling that your loved and are special in someone's eyes makes a difference to an individual.
This is not an entry that is meant to make people fight or get angry at the writter themselves. It is simply an entry to make people realise the importance of including everyone and possessing the qualities that make a good friend for most people. SO DONT SHOOT THE MESSENGER :D
SO make someone's day within life. Do something nice for an individual and see how much their life changes as a result of it.
Usually I use my simon baker picture which makes me so happy, but today i am using this one instead of Booth and Brennan from Bones :D
Friends should be like them.. two people who live seperate lives although they live together as one. They are with each other alot of the time sharing jokes, funny stories and working at the same. They have connections beyond our imagination and their chemistry is just amazing. The chemistry is not the important part. Smiling, enjoying themselves, laughing all are qualities that these people in the celebrity world. So I guess people in different worlds still share the same ideals of a friend.
Simply the world should be full of friends that share similar loves and connections on many levels. Although it is known that there will be enemies and not all people can be friends with everyone, but at least a simple gesture of love is all that one person needs to be happy for a day.
At least for now I know I have some solid friendship circle and the greatest friend I have known for iternity peace-and-war!
KK ♥
13/07/09