I need your advice...on something....

[__oni_no_kaze__]

There's recently been a major bombshell dropped on me, and knowing some of the things this group's involved with I couldn't think of anywhere better to go to get some advice on the matter

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[rick_day]

If you really love her, and you want the best for her, you will move on with your life and find another. She is out there, I promise.

Keep your chin up. This issue was going on long before you two got together, I assume.

Some things are just beyond anyone's control.

Be well.

[rubberheathen]

This is a tough one. It would seem that there really isn't much you can do aside from digging yourself an emotional hole and jumping into the abyss. Don't do that. Being ex Navy myself and having to endure "life" moving on without you is tough. If this is the decision he's made then you have three choices: 1) Support him. Be selfless and supportive and know that the pain and loss you feel is going to help enrich another's life and help them become who they really are. This will be the hardest, but probably the most rewarding. 2) You can break it off, tell him how you feel and bid him farewell forever and get on with your life. Or 3) Dig yourself that hole we talked about earlier and drown yourself in self pity and angst over something you have no control over, which would eventually lead to lots of bad drama for you and all those around you. You don't want to spend the rest of your enlistment wallowing in self pity, trust me.

Good luck and thank you for your service.

[__oni_no_kaze__]

Well, the thing is...she was bisexual to begin with. She's getting this done because she's always felt more like a boy than a girl and truly believes this is what she wants to do to be happy.
I myself happen to be bisexual as well, and I'm just wondering what it would be like if we actually chose to continue the relationship after the operation. I know it would be odd for a while, but do you think it's possible for it to work out if we both wanted it to?

[rubberheathen]

Of course it will work if you both try to make it work.