May 30, 2007 23:40
'Kissing has been prostituted and has degenerated to develop and express lust instead of affection, honor, and admiration. To kiss in casual dating is asking for trouble. What do kisses mean when given out like pretzels and robbed of sacredness? What is miscalled the "soul kiss" is an abomination and stirs passions to the eventual loss of virtue. Even if timely courtship justifies the kiss it should be a clean, decent, sexless one like the kiss between mother and son, or father and daughter.
If the "soul kiss" with its passion were eliminated from dating there would be an immediate upswing in chastity and honor, with fewer illegitimate babies, fewer unwed mothers, fewer forced marriages, fewer unhappy people.
With the absence of the "soul kiss" necking would be greatly reduced. The younger sister of petting, it should be totally eliminated. Both are abominations in their own right."
"Immorality does not begin in adultery or perversion. It begins with little indiscretions like sex thoughts, sex discussions, passionate kissing, petting, and such, growing with every exercise. The small indiscretion seems powerless compared to the sturdy body, the strong mind, the sweet spirit of youth who give way to the first temptation. But soon the strong has become weak, the master the slave, spiritual growth curtailed. But if the first unrighteous act is never given root, the tree will grow to beautiful maturity and the youthful life will grow toward God, our Father. (The Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball, p.281)
Nonetheless, no one should rush through dating, just to get married. And even when dating, one must be careful and sure to follow certain “rules.” Here are some accepted rules of dating for LDS singles:
**16 - This is generally an acceptable age to start dating. Thirteen, a common age within other communities to start dating, is a little too young.
**Keep it fun while you are young - At first, dating should be just for fun. It is a good time to start to get an idea of what you are looking for in a partner. Don’t get too serious right off the bat - more likely than not, your soul mate will not be the first, or even the second or eighth person you date.
**Serious dating - For boys, the time to start dating more seriously is after a mission. For girls, more serious dating can start after high school.
**Date people with the same high standards. Don’t expect to be able to change anyone.
**The more people you meet and date, the better you can decide what you are truly looking for in an eternal companion.
**Take your dates to wholesome places - the zoo, fun restaurants, amusement parks, picnics, hikes, etc. Be creative: you won’t learn too much about a person if you simply take him or her to the movies.
**If you do go to the movies, avoid R-rated ones.
**Don’t date on school nights (this is a good idea, even when in college).
**When still in high school, be sure to tell your parents whom you are going out with, where you are going, and when you will be getting back.
**Go on group dates. Group dates can be a lot of fun, and they offer an unthreatening way to meet new people. Also, in a group date, everyone is everyone else’s chaperone.
**Remain chaste.
**Avoid risky situations: avoid being alone with your date late at night.
**No heavy petting (“petting” is anything that increases sexual excitement). As a general rule, no touching above the knees or below the shoulders. Hugs, holding hands, and arms around the waist are ok. Use your own discretion.
**No passionate kissing. A short kiss, without the use of tongues, is all that is necessary.
Remember, the ultimate end and purpose of dating is marriage. While dating keep in mind qualities that you want in an eternal partner. After all, in the Church of Latter Day Saints, you are married for time and all eternity. This is a very important commitment: there is no reason to be hasty in your decision.
What the hell was I thinking? I can't go through with this... I'm dating a mormon.
Me.
me?
I mean, I was gonna try and corrupt him a little bit, but still. now I know that touching below the shoulders or french kissing sends him to hell. jesus christ. literally.
me. atheist. SXRXNRR, me. at least I don't ever have to worry about a "humpemdumpem" situation. wish me luck?