If you are concerned right now, end it before Kids get involved. Once you have the tie down and kids, life together gets HARDER to play with each other (nothing like the fear of a 3 yr old entering in on you to squash afternoon sex).
Maybe we just get lazy. Maybe we are just too tired to care.
I'm sure the excitement of the newness of the new guy is amazing (I know mine is), The game is in the hunt. But if you are hunting now because you are "resigned", it probably won't get any better.
I just read all of this...your story and mine are remarkably similar. My bf and I are actually in a trial period right now, where we are working on our issues...when the time is up in a few months, if we (really I) are still unhappy, we are splitting from an 8 year relationship--with kids. My other man is married though, and although we haven't done anything face to face yet it is looming on the horizon. I believe that once something does happen there, it will be the catalyst for sure. I wish us both luck, to enjoy what we deserve.
I am going to post an email I wrote in response to my ex's(ooh, that feels weird) pleas to get me back and accusations in my lj as friend's only. Maybe you can take bits from it here and there to help you explain your feelings. Yes, I ended it in person and it was hours of crying and sticking to my guns, but this was the gist of all of it, really.
Maybe we just get lazy. Maybe we are just too tired to care.
I'm sure the excitement of the newness of the new guy is amazing (I know mine is), The game is in the hunt. But if you are hunting now because you are "resigned", it probably won't get any better.
But then I'm a little jaded.
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i too wish us both luck :)
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