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Hi folks,
I'm just curious to know if anyone's been in the situation where they've married someone from another country (or are in a serious relationship with them) and after some time you've realised that you don't want to stay in the country you've chosen, but your partner does.
My situation is that I moved to Brazil 2.5 years ago. My wife wants to stay here for various revolving reasons, but I want to move back to my home of the UK as I can't get a proper job here, and I'm struggling on a part time job to pay my 50% of the bills and food (let alone afford anything else). I know that back in the UK we can both get jobs, and have a better quality of life.
Currently my wife says that she'd only go back if I got a job there, and the only way for me to get a job there is to move back and search, which could take some months still. I'd rather we both moved back though (I/we have the resources to live there while job hunting, courtesy of my parents) as aside from anything else I don't want to have to spend weeks apart. Edit: I'm also not 100% convinced this is the only reason, and I don't want to have to call her bluff and move back by myself. It ought to be something we do together.
To compound issues Christmas is approaching, and we're intending to spend Christmas in the UK. Christmas is the 3 year point for me in this situation, and I feel that something has to change as I've put up with this for a significant amount of time. I'm worried about spending more money on flights (£700/US$1400 for a return ticket) when (1) I don't have it and (2) I want to stay in the UK for the reasons above.
So as above, I'm curious if anyone else has been in or seen a similar situation and/or has any ideas.
TIA
I'm just curious to know if anyone's been in the situation where they've married someone from another country (or are in a serious relationship with them) and after some time you've realised that you don't want to stay in the country you've chosen, but your partner does.
My situation is that I moved to Brazil 2.5 years ago. My wife wants to stay here for various revolving reasons, but I want to move back to my home of the UK as I can't get a proper job here, and I'm struggling on a part time job to pay my 50% of the bills and food (let alone afford anything else). I know that back in the UK we can both get jobs, and have a better quality of life.
Currently my wife says that she'd only go back if I got a job there, and the only way for me to get a job there is to move back and search, which could take some months still. I'd rather we both moved back though (I/we have the resources to live there while job hunting, courtesy of my parents) as aside from anything else I don't want to have to spend weeks apart. Edit: I'm also not 100% convinced this is the only reason, and I don't want to have to call her bluff and move back by myself. It ought to be something we do together.
To compound issues Christmas is approaching, and we're intending to spend Christmas in the UK. Christmas is the 3 year point for me in this situation, and I feel that something has to change as I've put up with this for a significant amount of time. I'm worried about spending more money on flights (£700/US$1400 for a return ticket) when (1) I don't have it and (2) I want to stay in the UK for the reasons above.
So as above, I'm curious if anyone else has been in or seen a similar situation and/or has any ideas.
TIA