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All is right with the world...

Apr 26, 2010 14:49

Friday afternoon was nice and sunny and I spent it offline and mostly outside with Maddy and Indy. We went out to dinner at IHOP (I was totally lazy!) and the evening was spent on WOW and watching Cartoon Network's lineup. I finally dinged 77 and can fly around Northrend. Woo! I also spent an insane amount of virtual gold to level enchanting. I can ( Read more... )

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eustacia_vye28 May 3 2010, 15:14:39 UTC

It's hard won, but really easy to forget about. A lot of it comes from having help and an easy baby. Jay's helped out a lot (especially when compared with some of my peers' husbands...) and when I felt *this close* to snapping, he was very calming. We tend to freak out alternately, so that definitely helps. :D

The hardest part was in the early months. I felt like I was only in mommy mode or work mode, and there was nothing else in between. I think it's a tough transition from 0 to 1 kid. Having a puppy first helps, but you can't put a kid in a crate if you have to go to work. ;)

You WILL absolutely have time. It just won't be as much as before, and maybe not to the level you would have liked before. I can write, but it helps that I'm a fast typist and that can be done anytime anyway. I can't do that AND Otakon AND TV marathon weekends AND do RPG games AND online gaming. So some of those things have to be dropped or put on back burner status. And when the kids go back to school, you can probably pick up a few more things. It's a question of time management and priorities, which is much easier than it sounds. :D

alycewilson May 3 2010, 17:48:12 UTC

Exactly! And I've already had to do some of that because of the way pregnancy has slowed me down. I can't go through my entire Friends page every day, for example, and I have to put personal projects aside in order to meet deadlines. I'm still doing Otakon this year (running Press Relations, in fact), but have augmented our staff and been training a lieutenant to take charge of the department while I'm upstairs doing baby stuff (still accessible by phone and Internet, but not physically). The big question I haven't been able to answer yet is whether or not he's going to be a mild-mannered baby or a colicky, difficult one!

eustacia_vye28 May 3 2010, 19:17:55 UTC

and the first few weeks don't count, remember that. Even an easy baby can feel tiresome then. :D

alycewilson May 3 2010, 20:22:12 UTC

So I've been warned by many people. I'm expecting the first few weeks to be about nothing but the baby. My mom will stay for a couple days to help out (she's really sweet and supportive, with a good sense of humor). My hubby will take off for a week and work part-time the second week. He's also been so helpful during my pregnancy I believe he'll continue to help out with the baby, too.

eustacia_vye28 May 3 2010, 23:31:12 UTC

Very good!

Tho if you feel like giving everyone a thwap upside the head or hiding in the corner to cry, that's normal, too. I had a lot of those kinds of entries back in October 2008 while I was adjusting. As helpful as other people can be, you're still the Mom. I might've also had extra angst for trying to breastfeed even tho it wasn't working out, I don't know.

alycewilson May 3 2010, 23:35:36 UTC

I hope you won't mind if I come to you with questions sometimes! I'm lucky to have so many friends who have already been through this.

FYI, we got the clip-on seat we saw you using at Com Con. Looks like it's going to be very useful, once he's capable of using it.

eustacia_vye28 May 4 2010, 15:54:07 UTC

I don't mind at all. It's nice to have people to tell you that something's normal. :)

Best thing ever, isn't it? Now you don't have to worry about places having high chairs or not. You get used to how they snap open and shut after a while, and it's very portable.

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