last names

[estrie]

plural, here posted how he feels about the whole women taking their husbands' last names at marriage thing. And then a whole bunch of people commented (and still are commenting probably). Instead of commenting there, I'm going to think in writing here. And I'm going to make a poll, and request comments from you

Comments

[lachrymite]

I really hate my last name. I can't think of any names it meshes well with. Stupid fucking Portuguese name. So, I hope that my future wife, should I get married, keeps her maiden name. Hell, I would like it if I could take hers, depending what it is. It's not a matter of feminism, since I'm certainly not a male feminist in the least and enjoy quite traditional family units and like submissive women. It's just a matter of aesthetics.

[dr_rocket]

your spite for the portuguese wouldn't happen to stem from your hatred of your own name, eh?

[lachrymite]

I think my spite from the Portuguese mainly stems from the fact that they are the predominant minority in this area, and thus I have a lot of experience with how obnoxious they can be as a culture. Many are first generation immigrants, and still cling strongly to their rather annoying old world ways, like a machismo similar to that found in many Hispanic cultures, fanatic dedication to the Catholic church, and a much stronger bias against intelligence and for the ability to play soccer than is found in most of the subcultures of America. Even though I'm only 25%, since I have the last name and the general Portuguese male look, I can get stereotyped into being just another Portagee or greenhorn (the slurs for Portuguese around here). Ironically, if I go anywhere else, like when I lived in Philadelphia or Africa, and people find out I'm Portuguese they think it's all exotic and interesting.

[estrie]

yo, it meshes well with jym :D

[lachrymite]

It does! That's probably part of the reason I've kept what is basically a childhood nickname that would typically be seen as rather annoying and an attempt to be different. That, and I'm just too lazy to make the switch mentally.