last names
plural, here posted how he feels about the whole women taking their husbands' last names at marriage thing. And then a whole bunch of people commented (and still are commenting probably). Instead of commenting there, I'm going to think in writing here. And I'm going to make a poll, and request comments from you.
Seeing as, again, I'm looking for responses, this'll be in... this journal, estrie.
I have yet to encounter a last name that would go better with my first name and me than what I already have. This is probably majorly a result of the fact that I spent 20 years correcting people on how to say it. Starting a year ago in college is when people I started meeting knew how to say it, and what's cool is an election judge knew how to say it a couple weeks ago too!
Plenty of people still look at me like I'm lying or like I don't know what I'm talking about when I tell them either how to spell my name or how my name is pronounced. Which is why I'm convinced I have to somehow remain in highly diverse and educated environments even though I hate studying. I will find a way.
Anyway, like I said, I'm attached to my name... If I marry Ben, Miller is boring as hell (no offense, lover!). But Anni Miller? I dunno... Of all the people I can think of right now, there are some awesome name combinations as well as some not as cool combinations (not currently existing couples, just combinations of everyone I can think of).
My rambling about cool name combinations almost trivializes the original issue which had something to do with respect, tradition, feminism... A couple of the comments were interesting. Women's taking husbands' last names used to signify transfer of ownership, that is a point, and it's also a point that demanding to keep your maiden name as a way to show your husband doesn't own you is almost... well, it's a small battle. I'm not going to try to get into that.
I just realized somewhere along the way that I don't really have to take anyone's name and if whatever name does not really suit me, I'm not taking it... I guess I ignore that thing about respect as well as tradition. But I also ignore that thing about feminism. Though one could argue that simply the way I'm thinking about it is moving forward...
Anyway, I guess I'm not doing a poll because I don't want to make the answers. Just comment... what are you doing? What do you want? What do you think?
Seeing as, again, I'm looking for responses, this'll be in... this journal, estrie.
I have yet to encounter a last name that would go better with my first name and me than what I already have. This is probably majorly a result of the fact that I spent 20 years correcting people on how to say it. Starting a year ago in college is when people I started meeting knew how to say it, and what's cool is an election judge knew how to say it a couple weeks ago too!
Plenty of people still look at me like I'm lying or like I don't know what I'm talking about when I tell them either how to spell my name or how my name is pronounced. Which is why I'm convinced I have to somehow remain in highly diverse and educated environments even though I hate studying. I will find a way.
Anyway, like I said, I'm attached to my name... If I marry Ben, Miller is boring as hell (no offense, lover!). But Anni Miller? I dunno... Of all the people I can think of right now, there are some awesome name combinations as well as some not as cool combinations (not currently existing couples, just combinations of everyone I can think of).
My rambling about cool name combinations almost trivializes the original issue which had something to do with respect, tradition, feminism... A couple of the comments were interesting. Women's taking husbands' last names used to signify transfer of ownership, that is a point, and it's also a point that demanding to keep your maiden name as a way to show your husband doesn't own you is almost... well, it's a small battle. I'm not going to try to get into that.
I just realized somewhere along the way that I don't really have to take anyone's name and if whatever name does not really suit me, I'm not taking it... I guess I ignore that thing about respect as well as tradition. But I also ignore that thing about feminism. Though one could argue that simply the way I'm thinking about it is moving forward...
Anyway, I guess I'm not doing a poll because I don't want to make the answers. Just comment... what are you doing? What do you want? What do you think?