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OK, there are a few different tangents that went off from Cecil's rant which made me think about the different degrees of separation I have had so far.
Separated from Singapore Family and Friends, Relocated for love:
I miss my friends from Singapore. But forward 6 years, I continue to keep in touch with key friends via web and email. But my kin family is still a big concern - so dysfunctional. It's kinda good to be away from that because I am so intolerant of the passiveness. All in all, I feel like I was given a chance to start afresh, but the compromise was that I had to give up all of the opportunities I had built for myself in Singapore, in exchange for the unknown opportunities I could make for myself (and my family) in the US.
As for going from dating long-distance to permanently being tied to having to be in the same location . . . it used to be such a sore point and it seemed as if it was going to be a long learning curve at the beginning. But now we're just the average couple. In fact, some days we totally respect the need to not have a conversation aside from, "What you want for dinner?" Noah calls it, "Maintaining the Peace".
Temporary Separation from Noah and Naia Each Week:
Now that I am away from home every Mon - Wed, I am feeling the need to be with my family more and more. Nonetheless, the time away also means Noah and I argue less and make time for activities when I am in Cleveland. I also feel that our family is more "productive" that way cus mommy gets some sanity time to herself and is recharged for the endless tasks that fill up my time when I am back in town. Otherwise, Noah would get very complacent and not help as much when I was around.
Permanent Relocation to Columbus:
Now Noah is relocating with me to Columbus. Naia probably doesn't really care. Not right now anyway. There are many questions marks looming around this pending phase in our lives.
Possible Relocation for Husband:
I could relocate with Noah if his job required. The only thing I request is for time to get acclimated. I am not tied to a geographic area. After a while, you realize home is where you make it. Geography and environment is a powerful deterrent but at the end of the day, that's not what defines you and your partner and your family so it should not matter.
Separated from Singapore Family and Friends, Relocated for love:
I miss my friends from Singapore. But forward 6 years, I continue to keep in touch with key friends via web and email. But my kin family is still a big concern - so dysfunctional. It's kinda good to be away from that because I am so intolerant of the passiveness. All in all, I feel like I was given a chance to start afresh, but the compromise was that I had to give up all of the opportunities I had built for myself in Singapore, in exchange for the unknown opportunities I could make for myself (and my family) in the US.
As for going from dating long-distance to permanently being tied to having to be in the same location . . . it used to be such a sore point and it seemed as if it was going to be a long learning curve at the beginning. But now we're just the average couple. In fact, some days we totally respect the need to not have a conversation aside from, "What you want for dinner?" Noah calls it, "Maintaining the Peace".
Temporary Separation from Noah and Naia Each Week:
Now that I am away from home every Mon - Wed, I am feeling the need to be with my family more and more. Nonetheless, the time away also means Noah and I argue less and make time for activities when I am in Cleveland. I also feel that our family is more "productive" that way cus mommy gets some sanity time to herself and is recharged for the endless tasks that fill up my time when I am back in town. Otherwise, Noah would get very complacent and not help as much when I was around.
Permanent Relocation to Columbus:
Now Noah is relocating with me to Columbus. Naia probably doesn't really care. Not right now anyway. There are many questions marks looming around this pending phase in our lives.
Possible Relocation for Husband:
I could relocate with Noah if his job required. The only thing I request is for time to get acclimated. I am not tied to a geographic area. After a while, you realize home is where you make it. Geography and environment is a powerful deterrent but at the end of the day, that's not what defines you and your partner and your family so it should not matter.