Dry and empty
The point:
I'm puzzeled and cannot figure out how to solve my issue. The issue: Odd unguided mixed feelings about guys.
Possible solutions:
1. Have fun live in the moment basque in the glory.
2. Be up front with the guy and let him know the future is grim.
3. Fuck guys all together. Who needs 'em.
Background:
This guy Bob (name changed for security issues) and I have been seeing each other for about a month or longer. Not dating because we haven't claimed each other yet. Not that that needs to be directly said but once two people are on the same page things go smoother. He's a nice guy from what I can tell. Athletic, smart, a couple years older than I am but for once he's a mature guy that I have been interested in.
Then the down side which is where my issue begins. Whenever we are around former football guys, guys of his age, or friends he knows (guys or gals) all intamate actions between him and I stop. Even hand holding or his arm around my shoulder. I've tried to do just the little things like I mentioned, he'll accept 'em but then he stops.
My thoughts, the fact that he's a senior and knows what he wants to do with the rest of his life is perfect yet out of sync to my stage in life. Next year he'll be getting ready to graduate and I'll just be into my second year of college. I'm not saying he's "the one" because honestly I don't believe in that; there are more guys out there that i can be compatable with. However, this guy is a 'good guy' that i am interested in building a relationship with, but unsure because of our stages in life.
It's just when he sits and talks about himself the whole time it bugs me. I try and relate with my stories but he never compliments on them he just keeps talking... it's a dry feeling... like a cotton mouth. I can't talk, my throat is dry, and it's a bad taste.
My questions:
Is this normal for guys to do (act macho in front of buddies)?
Why does he do this? Does he not want to be with me?
I am not a clingy gal. I don't need a guy I can be with, I need a guy I can't be without. So far haven't found that. Sad to think but maybe "Bob" isn't the guy for me.
I'm puzzeled and cannot figure out how to solve my issue. The issue: Odd unguided mixed feelings about guys.
Possible solutions:
1. Have fun live in the moment basque in the glory.
2. Be up front with the guy and let him know the future is grim.
3. Fuck guys all together. Who needs 'em.
Background:
This guy Bob (name changed for security issues) and I have been seeing each other for about a month or longer. Not dating because we haven't claimed each other yet. Not that that needs to be directly said but once two people are on the same page things go smoother. He's a nice guy from what I can tell. Athletic, smart, a couple years older than I am but for once he's a mature guy that I have been interested in.
Then the down side which is where my issue begins. Whenever we are around former football guys, guys of his age, or friends he knows (guys or gals) all intamate actions between him and I stop. Even hand holding or his arm around my shoulder. I've tried to do just the little things like I mentioned, he'll accept 'em but then he stops.
My thoughts, the fact that he's a senior and knows what he wants to do with the rest of his life is perfect yet out of sync to my stage in life. Next year he'll be getting ready to graduate and I'll just be into my second year of college. I'm not saying he's "the one" because honestly I don't believe in that; there are more guys out there that i can be compatable with. However, this guy is a 'good guy' that i am interested in building a relationship with, but unsure because of our stages in life.
It's just when he sits and talks about himself the whole time it bugs me. I try and relate with my stories but he never compliments on them he just keeps talking... it's a dry feeling... like a cotton mouth. I can't talk, my throat is dry, and it's a bad taste.
My questions:
Is this normal for guys to do (act macho in front of buddies)?
Why does he do this? Does he not want to be with me?
I am not a clingy gal. I don't need a guy I can be with, I need a guy I can't be without. So far haven't found that. Sad to think but maybe "Bob" isn't the guy for me.