He's Just Not That Into You.... Wrong???
So I have been talking about this book, HJNTIY for a week or two now, and a friend of mine messages me today, telling me to go to this website, http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_250/279_relationship_expert.html , and read the article, tell him what I think. Well, I think it's crap. It may be all fine and good for men, and some women may be like that, but I will tell you that I am one of many women I know who do not fit the profile of "all women" decribed in this article. When I met a guy in the past, I would be forward, flirting and give him my number, telling him to call me.... and nothing EVER happened. Because he was just NOT THAT INTO ME.
Now, when I meet a guy, I show I'm interested, but I only give my number if he asks. I do not call him first. I do not ask him out. I am not aggressive about it. And do you know what? It works for me! I am so much happier now, because I am not wasting my time on some stupid guy that is playing games with my head and heart. I don't have to wonder about it.
Now I'm not saying that a guy has to call within three minutes before he gets tossed on the garbage heap, as this article suggested, but that he calls within a reasonable time period from when he tells me he will call.
I know there are girls out there that are agressive, and there may well be guys that are into that. And if that works for them, fine, fantastic, good for you. All I'm saying is that there are women who feel that this book has made an excellent point, which should be quite obvious, as this book is a top selling book and so many women have taken it as their Bible, and that Greg and Liz arent as wrong as Dr. Love claims.
Edit: I'm not saying that this book is entirely right, there are a number of situations in there that are extreme, and some things suggested should be taken with a grain of salt. All I'm saying is that I feel the basic idea of the book is right for me and what I want in a relationship. The popularity of the book shows that there are many women who agree with me.
Now, when I meet a guy, I show I'm interested, but I only give my number if he asks. I do not call him first. I do not ask him out. I am not aggressive about it. And do you know what? It works for me! I am so much happier now, because I am not wasting my time on some stupid guy that is playing games with my head and heart. I don't have to wonder about it.
Now I'm not saying that a guy has to call within three minutes before he gets tossed on the garbage heap, as this article suggested, but that he calls within a reasonable time period from when he tells me he will call.
I know there are girls out there that are agressive, and there may well be guys that are into that. And if that works for them, fine, fantastic, good for you. All I'm saying is that there are women who feel that this book has made an excellent point, which should be quite obvious, as this book is a top selling book and so many women have taken it as their Bible, and that Greg and Liz arent as wrong as Dr. Love claims.
Edit: I'm not saying that this book is entirely right, there are a number of situations in there that are extreme, and some things suggested should be taken with a grain of salt. All I'm saying is that I feel the basic idea of the book is right for me and what I want in a relationship. The popularity of the book shows that there are many women who agree with me.