Do You See What I See?
In a peculiar amount of time, within the past week two people have both admitted to me that they feel I am smarter, prettier, braver and generally more "perfect" an individual than they will ever be. I really found this hard to believe - other people I've known for four years suddenly coming out and saying this? People who I thought have magnificent qualities themselves? It just doesn't make sense in my mind.
Why do we live in a society where we always feel the need to compare ourselves to others in every aspect of our lives? I admit I have done it at times, a feel I am someone who is particularly competitive in academics, when somebody sets a standard I have a passion to beat it. I have a strong yet flawed mentality in regards to that area of my life. In terms of looks, like most girls I'm guilty of this. But I couldn't have even imagined the extent to which these two people degraded themselves and idolized me, of all people. Me, who I think is this flawed girl who honestly has not a clue about some of the most important things in my life. Which makes me think - why can't we just live on a relative scale, where the only standards we have to achieve are our own? Wouldn't that be wonderful, to feel no pressure except from ourselves?
It seems like an all too perfect life. I have my own role models who I admire for their own traits, and they shape who I am. But really, do I want to model myself after other people that much? No way in heck. Appreciating other people seems to be such a strange and bizarre aspect of life. On one hand, we have the compliments, gifts, simple smiles from others which make our day. On the other side of the spectrum, we have these self destructing people on the quest to be so much like another person that they forget who they are in the process.
We all need a damn good dose of self confidence. I know I may be in no position to comment, but you should honestly think about what you say to yourself about you. Ban comparisons. If you're not happy with yourself, it's never too late to change who you want to be. Start now. I won't say I'm full of confidence, I look in the mirror some days and just slaughter my appearance, other days my massive ego is in full swing. Yet in general, it is surprising how many securities people subconsciously have after they open up to you.
It took those people four years to admit that much to me. I wonder what others I've known for that long think of me - both good and bad. It's quite a disturbing thought, but to be honest at the end of the day, I don't see myself changing all that much.
I am my own person. I am who I am forever and always.
Take it or leave it, just don't deny it.
- Emily I.
Why do we live in a society where we always feel the need to compare ourselves to others in every aspect of our lives? I admit I have done it at times, a feel I am someone who is particularly competitive in academics, when somebody sets a standard I have a passion to beat it. I have a strong yet flawed mentality in regards to that area of my life. In terms of looks, like most girls I'm guilty of this. But I couldn't have even imagined the extent to which these two people degraded themselves and idolized me, of all people. Me, who I think is this flawed girl who honestly has not a clue about some of the most important things in my life. Which makes me think - why can't we just live on a relative scale, where the only standards we have to achieve are our own? Wouldn't that be wonderful, to feel no pressure except from ourselves?
It seems like an all too perfect life. I have my own role models who I admire for their own traits, and they shape who I am. But really, do I want to model myself after other people that much? No way in heck. Appreciating other people seems to be such a strange and bizarre aspect of life. On one hand, we have the compliments, gifts, simple smiles from others which make our day. On the other side of the spectrum, we have these self destructing people on the quest to be so much like another person that they forget who they are in the process.
We all need a damn good dose of self confidence. I know I may be in no position to comment, but you should honestly think about what you say to yourself about you. Ban comparisons. If you're not happy with yourself, it's never too late to change who you want to be. Start now. I won't say I'm full of confidence, I look in the mirror some days and just slaughter my appearance, other days my massive ego is in full swing. Yet in general, it is surprising how many securities people subconsciously have after they open up to you.
It took those people four years to admit that much to me. I wonder what others I've known for that long think of me - both good and bad. It's quite a disturbing thought, but to be honest at the end of the day, I don't see myself changing all that much.
I am my own person. I am who I am forever and always.
Take it or leave it, just don't deny it.
- Emily I.