Find a way to live

[elvisvf101]

So, elvenlaughter wins at being able to write coherently about things, so, I'm going to attempt to follow her example.

She started talking about romance, and that prompted me to think about dating and relationships and being a single 26 year old. This is what I came up with:

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[mari4212]

High heels don't make any sense to me, either, and I'm a girl. (Okay, I've got one pair with a low heel that I wear every so often when I know I'm going do be doing a lot of sitting, but that's it.) Nor does the club scene appeal at all, as I'm: a) an introvert and b) not fond of club music/dancing. Get me out to an SCA event with more space and medieval dances, I do just fine. Plus, I have the side benefit of then being surrounded by utter geeks, which is far more fun than the club scene.

As for getting married and having kids...that is something that requires a lot of sacrifices and choices being made about how you want to live your life. I know I do want the husband and children sometime in the future, but I have a great deal of respect for people who can sit there and say that they aren't suited for it at this time, rather than going along and finding out they hate it midway through the process. The self-aware person causes less hurt in the long term.

And hey, I'm also sitting around being perfectly content to be single, though it sounds like I've had a better example of a happy family life than you have. Dating would just complicate things right now. (Of course, my family tradition holds that I shouldn't even be looking right now anyway. Women in my family tend to marry later.)

[elvisvf101]

I can totally get behind the idea of getting married later. My gripe with many of the women I have met is frequently related to maturity level.

I remember being in high school, and, upon turning 16, reflecting upon being 13 and thinking "Man, I sure was an immature little snot!" Simmilar reflections happened upon turning 18 and reflecting on 16, turning 21 and reflecting on 18, and so on and so forth.

There are times I barely recognize who I was even a few years ago. I'm just struck sometimes by how naive or clueless I really was. Perhaps moving into the future and becoming a little older and a little wiser will soften my views and open my heart.

[mari4212]

Life and maturity has a funny way of catching up on you like that, I've noticed.

Hey, my mother was 29 when she married my father. Grandma was 30 when she married Granddad. My sister is marrying young, she's only 27. We tend to marry late and then stay together. You've got time.

[elvisvf101]

Also, side note:

I just registered for a corporate training thingamajig in July from the 8th to the 10th which takes place in Akron. Given that the preceding Friday is the 4th, I may make a small trip out of this to visit some family in Columbus, and maybe stopping in Canton to see the Football Hall of Fame.

Given that I will be covering a small portion of the state of Ohio, Dayton isn't really that much further, is it?

If you are available, we can gorge ourselves on ice-cream, watch geeky anime and movies and talk into the wee hours of the morning.

[mari4212]

Part one of my response: *bounces excitedly and starts plotting cookie recipes*

Part two of my response: *gnashes teeth as she checks the date* I'll still be in Indiana at that point, finishing off the last few summer courses. I don't get back into Ohio until the end of July.

Now, if you want to decide that an extra four and a half hours from Dayton to Evansville isn't too far out of the way, we could still do the geek-out. Like I said, this would be a cause for massive squeeage on my part. But considering gas prices, that might be a bit much of a trip for you.

If you do end up going past Dayton, stop by my house anyway and tell Mom you're a friend of mine. She'll feed you cookies and Dad'll probably end up telling all the embarrassing stories about me that he'd otherwise tell you in front of me.