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There isn't any good way of paraphrasing this for you so I'll just quote you the whole paragraph. It's a shame there aren't more married people on my friends list.
From C.S. Lewis' The Four Loves
"We must go back to our Bibles. The husband is the head of the wife just in so far as he is to her what Christ is to the Church. He is to love her as Christ loved the Church --read on-- and give his life for her(Eph 5:25). This headship, then, is most fully embodied not in the husband we should all wish to be but in him whose marriage is most like a crucifixion; whose wife recieves most and gives least, is most unworthy of him, is --in her own mere nature-- least lovable. For the Church has no beauty but what the Bride-groom gives her; he does not find, but makes her, lovely. Thr chrism of this terrible coronation is to be seen not in the joys of any man's marriage but in its sorrows, in the sickness and sufferings of a good wife or the faults of a bad one, in his unwearying (never paraded) care or his inexhaustible forgiveness: forgiveness, not acquiescence. As Christ sees in the flawed, proud, fanatical or lukewarm Chruch on earth that Bride who will one day be without spot or wrinkle, and labours to produce the latter, so the husband whose headship is Christ-like (and he is allowed no other sort) never despairs."
C.S. Lewis is awesome...
From C.S. Lewis' The Four Loves
"We must go back to our Bibles. The husband is the head of the wife just in so far as he is to her what Christ is to the Church. He is to love her as Christ loved the Church --read on-- and give his life for her(Eph 5:25). This headship, then, is most fully embodied not in the husband we should all wish to be but in him whose marriage is most like a crucifixion; whose wife recieves most and gives least, is most unworthy of him, is --in her own mere nature-- least lovable. For the Church has no beauty but what the Bride-groom gives her; he does not find, but makes her, lovely. Thr chrism of this terrible coronation is to be seen not in the joys of any man's marriage but in its sorrows, in the sickness and sufferings of a good wife or the faults of a bad one, in his unwearying (never paraded) care or his inexhaustible forgiveness: forgiveness, not acquiescence. As Christ sees in the flawed, proud, fanatical or lukewarm Chruch on earth that Bride who will one day be without spot or wrinkle, and labours to produce the latter, so the husband whose headship is Christ-like (and he is allowed no other sort) never despairs."
C.S. Lewis is awesome...