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Sometimes, I really don't get why people break up. I know that it's impossible to stay with one person forever, especially at the somber young age that most of us are in, but break-ups are just so impossible to get through. I should know. Taking it from my own experience, break-ups feel like someone is slowly slicing your insides with a knife, back and forth, until your guts start to spew out, and doing this every single day until closure kicks in. Break-ups are the toughest thing to go through, but the aftermath of it all is heaven that you never ever pictured yourself to be standing in.
It's officially break-up season. July to November is the saddest (albeit, loneliest) time of the year, even though it ironically is the time we have where we meet new people and create long-lasting friendships. What exactly is it with those few months? From mere observation, it's probably because couples get together during the romantic time of the year (i.e. the cheese-filled month of February) or the fun part of the year - summer. It is when people meet, feel the romantic air around them because of the time of the year that is embedded as wonderful in their heads, and have the time of their lives. Then school and work hits, and the realization that time is not of the essence sinks deep into their heart-shaped chocolate-filled heads.
I absolutely hate it when couples I know and have grown to love end up with a break-up. It not only breaks their hearts but, for some reason, mine, too. It's sad to see the end of what had been a great friendship and relationship, knowing that those two people will always be awkward with each other and that time apart will only confuse them more. So many of my friends are currently going through break-ups or are already in the hazy stage of their own relationships. As eager as I am to give them good advice, I also get anxious as to where this advice will lead to. One of my close girl friends has been pretty malabo with the guy she's been seeing since high school, since they're both always busy and never have time to see each other. But whenever she tries to ask him what's wrong in their relationship, he always wins her heart back by telling her how much she means to him, and the ongoing cycle never ends. So I realized that although it's definitely painful to have to separate yourself from somebody you've gotten to know for a long period of time, it's also more painful to be in a relationship that's going no where. To always be waiting and wishing, wondering what he'll say or do next, or if he'll even say or do anything that will catch you off-guard. You start to compare yourselves to the perfect couples you know, asking yourself why you and your man aren't the same way and always blaming yourself for the wrong that's happening in your relationship. But truth be told, all relationships are different. I've definitely learned that from my own break-up. Comparing your relationship to others' only shows your insecurity about yourself even more, which leads to nothing at all.
I'm the biggest fan of love. So when I hear about break-ups - whether or not you're close to me - I will definitely feel the pain you'll be feeling. It just hurts to find out that so many people aren't working things out just because of the little things. But then again, relationships don't last forever.
Even if you don't believe in forever, you definitely should believe in right now. Stop hurting yourself over what will happen in the future. What matters the most is how you feel about someone right now. Don't hurt your relationship by thinking ahead, because what really matters is all of those gosh-darned feelings building up inside of you.
Don't be afraid to let love in when it knocks on your door. You may just be opening yourself up to a surprisingly welcoming guest.
It's officially break-up season. July to November is the saddest (albeit, loneliest) time of the year, even though it ironically is the time we have where we meet new people and create long-lasting friendships. What exactly is it with those few months? From mere observation, it's probably because couples get together during the romantic time of the year (i.e. the cheese-filled month of February) or the fun part of the year - summer. It is when people meet, feel the romantic air around them because of the time of the year that is embedded as wonderful in their heads, and have the time of their lives. Then school and work hits, and the realization that time is not of the essence sinks deep into their heart-shaped chocolate-filled heads.
I absolutely hate it when couples I know and have grown to love end up with a break-up. It not only breaks their hearts but, for some reason, mine, too. It's sad to see the end of what had been a great friendship and relationship, knowing that those two people will always be awkward with each other and that time apart will only confuse them more. So many of my friends are currently going through break-ups or are already in the hazy stage of their own relationships. As eager as I am to give them good advice, I also get anxious as to where this advice will lead to. One of my close girl friends has been pretty malabo with the guy she's been seeing since high school, since they're both always busy and never have time to see each other. But whenever she tries to ask him what's wrong in their relationship, he always wins her heart back by telling her how much she means to him, and the ongoing cycle never ends. So I realized that although it's definitely painful to have to separate yourself from somebody you've gotten to know for a long period of time, it's also more painful to be in a relationship that's going no where. To always be waiting and wishing, wondering what he'll say or do next, or if he'll even say or do anything that will catch you off-guard. You start to compare yourselves to the perfect couples you know, asking yourself why you and your man aren't the same way and always blaming yourself for the wrong that's happening in your relationship. But truth be told, all relationships are different. I've definitely learned that from my own break-up. Comparing your relationship to others' only shows your insecurity about yourself even more, which leads to nothing at all.
I'm the biggest fan of love. So when I hear about break-ups - whether or not you're close to me - I will definitely feel the pain you'll be feeling. It just hurts to find out that so many people aren't working things out just because of the little things. But then again, relationships don't last forever.
Even if you don't believe in forever, you definitely should believe in right now. Stop hurting yourself over what will happen in the future. What matters the most is how you feel about someone right now. Don't hurt your relationship by thinking ahead, because what really matters is all of those gosh-darned feelings building up inside of you.
Don't be afraid to let love in when it knocks on your door. You may just be opening yourself up to a surprisingly welcoming guest.