-For The Fellas- 'If I can't have you, nobody will...'
This post is really inspired by somebody I met recently, who has been up and down about this ex he has.
I know reading this journal you're probably thinking I'm some anti-feminism bitch, or some anti-somethingorother. Something that ends with an ism, basically. But really, I'm not. I view things differently than most people do, and if I had to pick a side between girl power, and keeping the vagina in the kitchen, I wouldn't be able to pick a side. So shut up and don't judge any of this till you've gotten to know it a little better!
So anyways, back to the topic.
So this guy, from what I got to know about him in the span of a couple of hours, is pretty nice. He's cute, smart, goal oriented, focused on important things and seems to be building towards a career in automobiles. He's really close to his mom, artistic, and tries to involve people he cares about in the things that make him happy. All in all, I'd recommend him to somebody as a great boyfriend.
So he's been in this relationship with this girl and then they broke up, because he didn't spend enough time with her, and she felt like she was dating his mom. Well, from my perspective, seeing as how he wasn't out partying and boozing out, I'd assume he was busy building a career that would eventually involve marriage with me, and kids and a big house, with tons of tricked out cars and a paintball zone in the backyard. I, personally, would of made it my business to help him build OUR future together by getting my OWN career started and focusing on including a pool, game room, library, and tons of animals for our future together. But you know how hoes can be.
They broke up, HER choice, and she's been going out on dates with other people. Apparently, this doesn't mean she's dating anybody- but it does mean whoever she's going out on dates with, is paying for her, holding her hand, and maybe giving her a kiss at the end of the night. And if dude is lucky, she's putting out.
There are THREE types of girls when it comes to break ups.
The possessive, controlling bitch.
The distant, waiting chick.
And, the desperate, attention getting bitch.
Let me describe them.
The possessive, controlling bitch might be going out on dates with other dudes, but that does NOT give YOU the right to go out on dates with anybody either. Of course, she doesn't have to ask permission to go out on dates, or fuck anybody else, because she's single. But then again, so are you. BUT! That doesn't mean you can do the things she's doing because she wants YOU to WAIT for HER while she makes up her mind. The truth of the matter is, she'll never make up her mind. She's not over the love you both shared, but then again- she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you anymore either. And while you cannot tell her that your mad she's dating other dudes, she is FREE to tell you she doesn't want you hanging out with other girls. Sounds fair, right? ( Not really ) This bitch is extremely stupid and unsure of herself. While her ego may be on a temporary inflate because she dumped you, as soon as a prospective future boyfriend betrays her, she'll be running back into the arms of her ex because she fears being alone. She gets off on drama, and even more on the fact that she can brag to all her friends how pathetic her ex is for eating the pussy that has been fucked by some other dude, and enjoying it. ( DON'T BE A SUCKER! )
The distant, waiting chick is the complete opposite. Instead of pursuing you and making sure you aren't sexing anybody else, she's doing her best to stay as far away as possible from you. Really, she just wants to get over you and really doesn't want to be broken hearted anymore. And while it may come off as 'She doesn't care about me', what it really means is 'You fucked up and I'm not going to let it happen again'. But that doesn't mean she's not waiting for you to come back, because she does want that. She's not over the love you both shared, but she's not trying to have a relationship with somebody who doesn't want her as much as she wants him. This chick is extremely smart and sure of herself, and while her ego may be crushed a tad over the shit homeboy is putting her through, she'll move on to greener pastures.
Last but never least, the desperate, attention getting bitch. So one of you called it quits and now every time you turn around, you see her face! In your mind, it may seem like she's got a gang of doppelgängers chasing your ass everywhere you go. It doesn't matter that its over- she's doing one of two things. 1- Pretending she doesn't know it's over, or 2- Just wanting to force you back into a relationship with her. I mean, shit, your best bet on getting away from this bitch, would have to be moving out of the state and hoping she doesn't buy a car to drive up everyday to see you for five minutes. Change your number, and have all your friends block her number- because unless somebody else starts fucking this hoe, you're stuck with her. Shit- you can even try to escape in another town, but as long as your both in the same state, you're fucked, buddy. She's calling you at all hours of the night, and even when you have another girl pick up, it don't matter- she's begging and pleading for you to go back to her. This chick has incredibly low self esteem, and is immature beyond shit. It's time to cut all ties and get the fuck out of there before she ends up standing next to your bed in the middle of the night and stabbing you till your guts spill out.
All in all, recognize game and learn how to play the fuck out of it. If your currently dealing with the possessive chick, cut out on that hoe. You're never going to get back with her, because she doesn't want to. Her lame excuses for breaking up signify that she wants you to end your life and start living hers. A strong man would know thats never a good idea. And a good woman would never ask that. And as for the attention bitch- good luck homie. That hoe is bound to get her way, one way or another, but if your lucky- she'll move on to some other innocent victim and you won't have to change your identity.
So to close this out. Don't get caught up in some stupid hoes mind games. STAY STRONG!
YUH!,
Janea
I know reading this journal you're probably thinking I'm some anti-feminism bitch, or some anti-somethingorother. Something that ends with an ism, basically. But really, I'm not. I view things differently than most people do, and if I had to pick a side between girl power, and keeping the vagina in the kitchen, I wouldn't be able to pick a side. So shut up and don't judge any of this till you've gotten to know it a little better!
So anyways, back to the topic.
So this guy, from what I got to know about him in the span of a couple of hours, is pretty nice. He's cute, smart, goal oriented, focused on important things and seems to be building towards a career in automobiles. He's really close to his mom, artistic, and tries to involve people he cares about in the things that make him happy. All in all, I'd recommend him to somebody as a great boyfriend.
So he's been in this relationship with this girl and then they broke up, because he didn't spend enough time with her, and she felt like she was dating his mom. Well, from my perspective, seeing as how he wasn't out partying and boozing out, I'd assume he was busy building a career that would eventually involve marriage with me, and kids and a big house, with tons of tricked out cars and a paintball zone in the backyard. I, personally, would of made it my business to help him build OUR future together by getting my OWN career started and focusing on including a pool, game room, library, and tons of animals for our future together. But you know how hoes can be.
They broke up, HER choice, and she's been going out on dates with other people. Apparently, this doesn't mean she's dating anybody- but it does mean whoever she's going out on dates with, is paying for her, holding her hand, and maybe giving her a kiss at the end of the night. And if dude is lucky, she's putting out.
There are THREE types of girls when it comes to break ups.
The possessive, controlling bitch.
The distant, waiting chick.
And, the desperate, attention getting bitch.
Let me describe them.
The possessive, controlling bitch might be going out on dates with other dudes, but that does NOT give YOU the right to go out on dates with anybody either. Of course, she doesn't have to ask permission to go out on dates, or fuck anybody else, because she's single. But then again, so are you. BUT! That doesn't mean you can do the things she's doing because she wants YOU to WAIT for HER while she makes up her mind. The truth of the matter is, she'll never make up her mind. She's not over the love you both shared, but then again- she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you anymore either. And while you cannot tell her that your mad she's dating other dudes, she is FREE to tell you she doesn't want you hanging out with other girls. Sounds fair, right? ( Not really ) This bitch is extremely stupid and unsure of herself. While her ego may be on a temporary inflate because she dumped you, as soon as a prospective future boyfriend betrays her, she'll be running back into the arms of her ex because she fears being alone. She gets off on drama, and even more on the fact that she can brag to all her friends how pathetic her ex is for eating the pussy that has been fucked by some other dude, and enjoying it. ( DON'T BE A SUCKER! )
The distant, waiting chick is the complete opposite. Instead of pursuing you and making sure you aren't sexing anybody else, she's doing her best to stay as far away as possible from you. Really, she just wants to get over you and really doesn't want to be broken hearted anymore. And while it may come off as 'She doesn't care about me', what it really means is 'You fucked up and I'm not going to let it happen again'. But that doesn't mean she's not waiting for you to come back, because she does want that. She's not over the love you both shared, but she's not trying to have a relationship with somebody who doesn't want her as much as she wants him. This chick is extremely smart and sure of herself, and while her ego may be crushed a tad over the shit homeboy is putting her through, she'll move on to greener pastures.
Last but never least, the desperate, attention getting bitch. So one of you called it quits and now every time you turn around, you see her face! In your mind, it may seem like she's got a gang of doppelgängers chasing your ass everywhere you go. It doesn't matter that its over- she's doing one of two things. 1- Pretending she doesn't know it's over, or 2- Just wanting to force you back into a relationship with her. I mean, shit, your best bet on getting away from this bitch, would have to be moving out of the state and hoping she doesn't buy a car to drive up everyday to see you for five minutes. Change your number, and have all your friends block her number- because unless somebody else starts fucking this hoe, you're stuck with her. Shit- you can even try to escape in another town, but as long as your both in the same state, you're fucked, buddy. She's calling you at all hours of the night, and even when you have another girl pick up, it don't matter- she's begging and pleading for you to go back to her. This chick has incredibly low self esteem, and is immature beyond shit. It's time to cut all ties and get the fuck out of there before she ends up standing next to your bed in the middle of the night and stabbing you till your guts spill out.
All in all, recognize game and learn how to play the fuck out of it. If your currently dealing with the possessive chick, cut out on that hoe. You're never going to get back with her, because she doesn't want to. Her lame excuses for breaking up signify that she wants you to end your life and start living hers. A strong man would know thats never a good idea. And a good woman would never ask that. And as for the attention bitch- good luck homie. That hoe is bound to get her way, one way or another, but if your lucky- she'll move on to some other innocent victim and you won't have to change your identity.
So to close this out. Don't get caught up in some stupid hoes mind games. STAY STRONG!
YUH!,
Janea