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God, can you imagine being hit with a quadrillion dollar charge??. Crazy.
Today I saw a story on my flist of an SPN fan who, on an anonymeme, has been accused of being slutty for the types of clothes she wore, and also called a whore and a 'starfucker' over accusations that she slept with a musician for SPN.
Let me tell you, I am looking forward to the day when women STOP turning on other women for showing any signs of being sexual beings. It's just getting so tiring. Going back to the days when I was in highschool, and one girl starts dating another girl's ex, what does she get called? A slut. When a guy steals his buddy's girl, what does he get called? An asshole or jerk, maybe, or maybe they just punch each other's lights out and then get over it.
Insults against women are always sexualised, always revolving around power and attitude and the very nature of being female. Skank. Slut. Whore. Bitch. Cunt. Pussy. It pisses me off when men use them, it pisses me off more when women use them.
Seriously, I have more issues with the fans who ask personal questions of celebs or try to give them fanfic than I do with the fans who will dress up or wear their shortest skirt or maybe -gasp- hit on them. Back when the Backstreet Boys and N*Sync were huge, there were stories about the fans throwing themselves at the boys, getting invited back to hotel rooms, all that sort of thing. Am I seriously supposed to think that the girls are whores but pat the boys on the head for indulging in that sort of thing? How about I just stick with my opinion that it happens, and good on both of the parties involved for getting laid?
Come on - seriously. When you are Taylor Kitsch or Jared Padalecki or Jensen Ackles - and I'm not leaving out the other side of things, so let's include Genevieve Cortese and Katie Cassidy and Angelina Jolie - you don't think they've never been hit on before? Do people seriously think that these people didn't get any action or attention before they became celebrities? Celebrities get flirted with and hit on, and while it's skeezy sometimes, yes, I don't think that the person who does it deserves to be called a slut or whore, and I don't think that the celebrities are gentle little snowflakes who shouldn't have to deal with it, either. Everyone should have the right to avoid sketchy people hitting on them, but that doesn't seem to be happening for the average person, either. Celebrities are cool, talented people, not gods.
I don't know what it is that makes women turn on each other this way. Internalised misogyny, competition, fear of men looking at us all and labelling us 'sluts' because one of us dared to enjoy sex?
We're in the 21st century, here. Surely the 'slut' insult has to get a little bit old at some point? Surely at some point women will stop participating in their own criticism? Women are sexual beings. Most of us like sex. Most of us will or have had sex with multiple partners, sometimes even threesomes or foursomes or hell, even more than that. We have the right to own that sexuality and be proud of it, not ashamed. People who have their own religious or personal moral reasons to abstain from sex or feel that they should only be with one person, all the more power to them.
It's about choice, not about one right way. I'll be over here worrying more about the fan wanting to show Jared and Jensen 3D porn while other fans worry about the girl daring to show a little skin.
Today I saw a story on my flist of an SPN fan who, on an anonymeme, has been accused of being slutty for the types of clothes she wore, and also called a whore and a 'starfucker' over accusations that she slept with a musician for SPN.
Let me tell you, I am looking forward to the day when women STOP turning on other women for showing any signs of being sexual beings. It's just getting so tiring. Going back to the days when I was in highschool, and one girl starts dating another girl's ex, what does she get called? A slut. When a guy steals his buddy's girl, what does he get called? An asshole or jerk, maybe, or maybe they just punch each other's lights out and then get over it.
Insults against women are always sexualised, always revolving around power and attitude and the very nature of being female. Skank. Slut. Whore. Bitch. Cunt. Pussy. It pisses me off when men use them, it pisses me off more when women use them.
Seriously, I have more issues with the fans who ask personal questions of celebs or try to give them fanfic than I do with the fans who will dress up or wear their shortest skirt or maybe -gasp- hit on them. Back when the Backstreet Boys and N*Sync were huge, there were stories about the fans throwing themselves at the boys, getting invited back to hotel rooms, all that sort of thing. Am I seriously supposed to think that the girls are whores but pat the boys on the head for indulging in that sort of thing? How about I just stick with my opinion that it happens, and good on both of the parties involved for getting laid?
Come on - seriously. When you are Taylor Kitsch or Jared Padalecki or Jensen Ackles - and I'm not leaving out the other side of things, so let's include Genevieve Cortese and Katie Cassidy and Angelina Jolie - you don't think they've never been hit on before? Do people seriously think that these people didn't get any action or attention before they became celebrities? Celebrities get flirted with and hit on, and while it's skeezy sometimes, yes, I don't think that the person who does it deserves to be called a slut or whore, and I don't think that the celebrities are gentle little snowflakes who shouldn't have to deal with it, either. Everyone should have the right to avoid sketchy people hitting on them, but that doesn't seem to be happening for the average person, either. Celebrities are cool, talented people, not gods.
I don't know what it is that makes women turn on each other this way. Internalised misogyny, competition, fear of men looking at us all and labelling us 'sluts' because one of us dared to enjoy sex?
We're in the 21st century, here. Surely the 'slut' insult has to get a little bit old at some point? Surely at some point women will stop participating in their own criticism? Women are sexual beings. Most of us like sex. Most of us will or have had sex with multiple partners, sometimes even threesomes or foursomes or hell, even more than that. We have the right to own that sexuality and be proud of it, not ashamed. People who have their own religious or personal moral reasons to abstain from sex or feel that they should only be with one person, all the more power to them.
It's about choice, not about one right way. I'll be over here worrying more about the fan wanting to show Jared and Jensen 3D porn while other fans worry about the girl daring to show a little skin.