Bringing up baby
Poll Child Rearin'
ETA: For the sake of avoiding discrepancies over my wording, assume by "beat" I mean "corporal punishment" or "physical discipline." To be clear, all of my friends that were "spanked"/"whooped"/etc used all three terms interchangeably. My use of "beat" is not a commentary on the act. If anything, it's just reflective of how the word is/was used in NYC (particularly circa late 80's, early 90's)
Here's the previous poll for anyone that's curious: http://www.livejournal.com/poll/?id=384346
So I usually don't like to repeat polls, but this topic keeps popping back up. And I know at least one person has a different answer from before, so I figured it was worth revisiting.
I was not spanked/beat/whooped (however the fuck you wanna call it) as a child. My mother was a hard-nosed chick, but she never raised a hand to me. I have a few theories about why (I know she spanked my sister at least a hand full of times), but I'll save them for another entry. The point is I gave that woman the utmost respect and she never even once threatened to hit me. [Well, she said "I'ma knock you out" often, but that was obviously not a real threat.]
And no, I was not a "bad kid." I did not run over her (see above about respect). I really resent the notion that a child must be physically disciplined in order to be kept in line. There are plenty of kids that don't respond to that. And some who will respond so negatively to it that it will result in more violence. [For those who missed my comment in blackfolk, I knew a kid in elementary school that beat his mother as soon as he got old/strong enough. Beating him harder/more is clearly not gonna solve that issue.]
Let me say that I wholeheartedly respect every parent's right to choose how they raise their child. That doesn't mean that I will respect the choice, but I will always respect their right to choose. And I honestly don't care what anyone says I do not believe that there is a kid that "needs" to be spanked. There's just too many other ways to respond to children.
And I won't repeat the stuff about the "timeout vs spanking" false dichotomy 'cause y'all know!!
ETA: For the sake of avoiding discrepancies over my wording, assume by "beat" I mean "corporal punishment" or "physical discipline." To be clear, all of my friends that were "spanked"/"whooped"/etc used all three terms interchangeably. My use of "beat" is not a commentary on the act. If anything, it's just reflective of how the word is/was used in NYC (particularly circa late 80's, early 90's)
Here's the previous poll for anyone that's curious: http://www.livejournal.com/poll/?id=384346
So I usually don't like to repeat polls, but this topic keeps popping back up. And I know at least one person has a different answer from before, so I figured it was worth revisiting.
I was not spanked/beat/whooped (however the fuck you wanna call it) as a child. My mother was a hard-nosed chick, but she never raised a hand to me. I have a few theories about why (I know she spanked my sister at least a hand full of times), but I'll save them for another entry. The point is I gave that woman the utmost respect and she never even once threatened to hit me. [Well, she said "I'ma knock you out" often, but that was obviously not a real threat.]
And no, I was not a "bad kid." I did not run over her (see above about respect). I really resent the notion that a child must be physically disciplined in order to be kept in line. There are plenty of kids that don't respond to that. And some who will respond so negatively to it that it will result in more violence. [For those who missed my comment in blackfolk, I knew a kid in elementary school that beat his mother as soon as he got old/strong enough. Beating him harder/more is clearly not gonna solve that issue.]
Let me say that I wholeheartedly respect every parent's right to choose how they raise their child. That doesn't mean that I will respect the choice, but I will always respect their right to choose. And I honestly don't care what anyone says I do not believe that there is a kid that "needs" to be spanked. There's just too many other ways to respond to children.
And I won't repeat the stuff about the "timeout vs spanking" false dichotomy 'cause y'all know!!