"First, the bulb must want to change."**
A while back I got into a conversation with Icy Boo about Attachment Theory. Then more recently it came up again in a convo with Mikey Mic. So I felt compelled to make an entry on it
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Agreed. Well, I kinda agree for the most part. I think everyone has at least one person that they can place in the position of primary caregiver, even if that person is inconsistent and so neglectful (emotionally or otherwise) that they hardly give care. Or maybe they have had multiple people who could potentially be placed in that title, but all have been fleeting or temp or also inconsistent and neglectful. Frankly, that's how folks in up in the categories other than secure. But I definitely agree about multiple caregivers and how it becomes hard to categorize. I don't remember the year it was developed, but I think the theory came about in a time when people assumed women were the sole people who parented. And that clearly taints things. I honestly believe few people can fit into one category. A situation can change your attachment style, temporarily or permanently. Still I find it kinda helpful in thinking about bonding and how we mimic the things we were taught (both explicitly and implicitly) by our guardians.
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