"First, the bulb must want to change."**

Jun 24, 2009 19:38

A while back I got into a conversation with Icy Boo about Attachment Theory. Then more recently it came up again in a convo with Mikey Mic. So I felt compelled to make an entry on it ( Read more... )

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no really jeriko June 25 2009, 00:41:32 UTC
1st: It's important to note that we all have the same inclinations and instincts. Some of us have developed different attachment styles to get our needs met. Some have developed coping strategies for how to respond when we don't get our needs met, but we all have the same basic needs.All the babies start off with the same needs. It's the parents'/parent's reactions that mold how the needs will be sought.

I guess I'm wired wrong because I don't want nor do I like attachments at all. Even when in relationships I don't care enough to the point that I miss any sleep if we fight / argue.

I haven't talked / acknowledge my sister for well over 10 years.
Thus the arsehole moniker, I don't really attach myself to anyone.

Until my downfall from grace....

So anyway... after everything that has happened, I fall into the first two categorizes; I assume, "You Know Who" falls into the latter two brackets.

After this post I'm thinking of posting it the way it is, I'm going to give it another read and see afterward.

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Re: no really moneda June 25 2009, 02:31:13 UTC
Every time I see you or Dale expounding on how your personalities are sooooo different from everyone elses' I think you're talking out of your ass. You both constantly sound like you're trying to convince yourselves more than anyone else.

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okay... here is the thing jeriko June 25 2009, 03:36:27 UTC
you are comparing me to someone who actually cares about people. Cares so much that he vents his frustration of society and the world around him in babble / ramblings through facebook & twitter, etc... A person who types out lyrics to songs because he has nothing else to do, A person that gets fixated on people; mostly women, very easily. A person who holds his memories of childhood to a high degree of value ( ... )

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Re: okay... here is the thing richirch2 June 25 2009, 17:57:46 UTC
I don't have the ability to care, especially for women, I really don't. In honesty up till recently, I only cared about a few things. My Mother & Niece, Money & Films being at the top. Everything else doesn't register.

Interesting.

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letting it set in jeriko June 26 2009, 02:34:09 UTC
and please follow up on that Interesting.

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Re: letting it set in richirch2 June 26 2009, 05:26:18 UTC
It's interesting that you say you don't have the ability to care for women, then contradict that by mentioning two women that you do care for.

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you people... and no not in that "You People" kind of way. jeriko June 26 2009, 07:47:42 UTC
I'm sure you don't treat other people; man or woman, as you would your mother or a close relative.

My Mother and Niece even though are women, I don't seem them as women. In the way I would see a woman on the street.

Do you show the same affection towards everyone, speaking mostly on a mother and stranger female. Granted I don't know your relationship with your mother.

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Re: you people... and no not in that "You People" kind of way. richirch2 June 26 2009, 13:26:08 UTC
Of course not. But you said "women", which encompasses all people who identify themselves with that gender, including your niece and mother.

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Re: no really dyvinesweetness June 25 2009, 13:13:21 UTC
Agreed. Well, I dunno Dale, but I agree about Steve. Him and every other person I know that does that (usually male) all seem to be trying to convince themselves more than anyone else. and some of them succeed in convincing themselves, but it doesn't take away from what I said about human instincts.

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only two things... jeriko June 26 2009, 02:32:26 UTC
I try to convince myself of:

1. The fact that people actually like me. No matter how much people show it or tell me, I convince myself that I am not like able. It's not that I don't have confidence, I just don't know why I try to convince myself that.

2. My Career; which is addressed in the Meme, in which everyone I know on a personal level tells me that I am talented. Yet for whatever reason I reject my "untapped-potential" as a close friend tells me.

Man I need to shut the fuck up now...

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Re: no really dyvinesweetness June 25 2009, 13:24:33 UTC
You can't say both "I don't form attachments" and "I don't care about women" while saying "except for her and my mother and my niece and..."

'Cause either you do or you don't and you clearly do.

And you should definitely post it. finally!

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you Ebony are like The Devil in Bedazzled jeriko June 26 2009, 02:24:34 UTC
I meant it in a "romantic" - "not a family member" interest.

I'm starting to believe that you only want one part of that Five Meme thing... it's too depressing and surreal. Well at least to me.

Maybe that is why I haven't posted it.

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