A Confession
I love this holiday. Not the hearts and the roses and the ugly pink monstrosities. I protest the commercialization, just as I do for Christmas. But I love the sentiment, which is simple: tell the people you love that you love them. It doesn't matter what kind of love it is that you express but it does matter that you tell it. Sometimes we do forget, and it would be sad if we only took this one day to express our love to people. But sometimes...sometimes a cultural reminder is a very good thing.
I have a lot of people to tell this to today. I am blessed to have so very many to love.
I am also blessed to have, for the first time in a long time, the opportunity to spend today with a person I am romantically involved with. I ordered him a gift weeks ago which hasn't come yet, and I'm disappointed about this fact. But most of my gift to him is simply to give him today. I am not doing any homework today, or grading any papers. We're not running any errands or doing any chores. Today is giving over to the luxury of loving with enough time, to cuddling and talking, reading aloud and watching DVDs on the computer, drinking tea, bringing him food in bed, caring for his body. Today is a day not for grand gestures, but for all the tiny intimacies.
I love you, Aatish. I'm so grateful to have you in my life. Thank you for all the millions of ways you support me.
With Kenny so ill, I'm thinking a lot about family right now, about choices, about support. Thank you to my community, and to my chosen family--you know who you are. My world would be dark without you.
Be safe today. Hug each other. Revel in small gifts.
I have a lot of people to tell this to today. I am blessed to have so very many to love.
I am also blessed to have, for the first time in a long time, the opportunity to spend today with a person I am romantically involved with. I ordered him a gift weeks ago which hasn't come yet, and I'm disappointed about this fact. But most of my gift to him is simply to give him today. I am not doing any homework today, or grading any papers. We're not running any errands or doing any chores. Today is giving over to the luxury of loving with enough time, to cuddling and talking, reading aloud and watching DVDs on the computer, drinking tea, bringing him food in bed, caring for his body. Today is a day not for grand gestures, but for all the tiny intimacies.
I love you, Aatish. I'm so grateful to have you in my life. Thank you for all the millions of ways you support me.
With Kenny so ill, I'm thinking a lot about family right now, about choices, about support. Thank you to my community, and to my chosen family--you know who you are. My world would be dark without you.
Be safe today. Hug each other. Revel in small gifts.