On Dating...
It was noted: You seem to go on a lot of dates. Any advice for the general populace?
First of all, don't push it to be a "date." Let it be...whatever it is. The expectation of chemistry can often get in the way of actual chemistry, and people anxiously trying to negotiate said expectations can often insure that nothing will happen at all. And laying on of romance can scare me, at least, off like nobodies business.
ETA: I like romance, I'm a big fan of it, in fact. desiringsubject recently gave me a button that read "Encouragable Romantic". I just don't like it thrust upon me at the beginning. And I like original kinds of romance better than the standard chocolate and flowers routine, though truth be told I'll take that in a pinch too and be glad for it.
Plan an activity with options in it. Food is good, as you can distract yourself with eating. Lots of my best dates have been at museums - ample food for conversation and also ample opportunities to relax, explore, have fun.
Leave room for yourself and/or the other person to bail if things aren't going right.
Trust your instincts.
Be willing to try dates with a lot of different people. Finding the right person (or in some cases, people,) can take a lot of time and energy. It often ends up being worth it in the end.
All that said, still single over here, so take all this with a grain of salt.
First of all, don't push it to be a "date." Let it be...whatever it is. The expectation of chemistry can often get in the way of actual chemistry, and people anxiously trying to negotiate said expectations can often insure that nothing will happen at all. And laying on of romance can scare me, at least, off like nobodies business.
ETA: I like romance, I'm a big fan of it, in fact. desiringsubject recently gave me a button that read "Encouragable Romantic". I just don't like it thrust upon me at the beginning. And I like original kinds of romance better than the standard chocolate and flowers routine, though truth be told I'll take that in a pinch too and be glad for it.
Plan an activity with options in it. Food is good, as you can distract yourself with eating. Lots of my best dates have been at museums - ample food for conversation and also ample opportunities to relax, explore, have fun.
Leave room for yourself and/or the other person to bail if things aren't going right.
Trust your instincts.
Be willing to try dates with a lot of different people. Finding the right person (or in some cases, people,) can take a lot of time and energy. It often ends up being worth it in the end.
All that said, still single over here, so take all this with a grain of salt.