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what’s most fascinating about this description to me is that this is exactly how a lot of fandom seems to think Ben Solo was as a child
I haven’t read that widely so this has eluded me- but, well, I know a lot of kids with aspects of this in their personality! I mean, clearly I’ve put this together from real-life kids I know, so this is actually all pretty normal stuff in my experience. So maybe that would be an interesting study- if they were really similar as kids, and how differently they were raised and how that shaped them.
I think giving Ben unusual Force-sensitivity would neatly explain the difference, though, because if you take a kid like that and add something uncanny and hard to explain, especially something that’s intrinsically terrifying, you’re going to put an edge onto all adult interactions with that child. And so you wind up with these two very similar boys of similar ages and somewhat-similar backgrounds, really, although the Dameron-Beys retire to a quiet life while the Organa-Solos clearly do not and that’s important- and then add that in, and you’re going to wind up with quite different results. I wouldn’t find that surprising at all.
(Not that all kids are like this, of course. I know a lot of kids who sleep like rocks from early infancy, who are emotionally robust and not unduly concerned with censure, who manage to balance active play and needing attention with quiet self-directed activities, etcetera.)
I don’t know what the greater fandom community usually headcanons as Poe’s childhood. Most of what I’ve read has just dealt with his trauma at losing his mother, and not much else, so I don’t know if I’m in line with that or not. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with giving Poe a simultaneously happy and difficult childhood prior to losing his mother; difficulty can be idyllic if it’s well-handled.
Ben Organa probably did not have an idyllic difficult childhood though. And you absolutely can make room for bonus Leia angst if she tortures herself that Poe’s difficult childhood turned out so well while her own son’s didn’t and clearly it’s all her fault. If people were into telling angsty stories with a woman protagonist that weren’t just about how terrible the woman is, which seems to be what we do instead. :(
what’s most fascinating about this description to me is that this is exactly how a lot of fandom seems to think Ben Solo was as a child
I haven’t read that widely so this has eluded me- but, well, I know a lot of kids with aspects of this in their personality! I mean, clearly I’ve put this together from real-life kids I know, so this is actually all pretty normal stuff in my experience. So maybe that would be an interesting study- if they were really similar as kids, and how differently they were raised and how that shaped them.
I think giving Ben unusual Force-sensitivity would neatly explain the difference, though, because if you take a kid like that and add something uncanny and hard to explain, especially something that’s intrinsically terrifying, you’re going to put an edge onto all adult interactions with that child. And so you wind up with these two very similar boys of similar ages and somewhat-similar backgrounds, really, although the Dameron-Beys retire to a quiet life while the Organa-Solos clearly do not and that’s important- and then add that in, and you’re going to wind up with quite different results. I wouldn’t find that surprising at all.
(Not that all kids are like this, of course. I know a lot of kids who sleep like rocks from early infancy, who are emotionally robust and not unduly concerned with censure, who manage to balance active play and needing attention with quiet self-directed activities, etcetera.)
I don’t know what the greater fandom community usually headcanons as Poe’s childhood. Most of what I’ve read has just dealt with his trauma at losing his mother, and not much else, so I don’t know if I’m in line with that or not. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with giving Poe a simultaneously happy and difficult childhood prior to losing his mother; difficulty can be idyllic if it’s well-handled.
Ben Organa probably did not have an idyllic difficult childhood though. And you absolutely can make room for bonus Leia angst if she tortures herself that Poe’s difficult childhood turned out so well while her own son’s didn’t and clearly it’s all her fault. If people were into telling angsty stories with a woman protagonist that weren’t just about how terrible the woman is, which seems to be what we do instead. :(