release the fists

[dragonflysik]

It's not easy to quiet down, free yourself of everything and just focus on interactions with god in praying. It's similar to receiving gifts from others. You have to learn to accept without burden, without worries how you are going to repay. I remember the uneasiness i felt when others treated me nicely and i knew i didn't repay them in the same

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[neuy]

give and take, we have often been told, and we have always been taught that people are takers, and to give is a virtue.

but you are absolutely right there too, that way too often, the act of taking is so often neglected, that taking is not necessarily submission, nor is it to kowtow, or to give oneself up, or to place oneself at a lower or more subservient position as compared to others.

taking, ultimately, is about humility, amongst other things.

[dragonflysik]

exactly, i think majority of us need to learn humility. most of the time we are too proud. like me, i'm proud especially in terms of work & interactions with colleagues to the extent that i tended to think why i have to work with people like this. but who am i to judge them? i'm no better than them, it's a fact that i have to accept.

[neuy]

how true. they might be thinking what a prick we are too!!

nevertheless, humility needs to be controlled subtly or else we would just end up being trempled all over, but i suppose the key is not total humility, but ulimately, humility of the soul, and accept the fact that we are one in six billions drones and we are only as special as the next person, and as plain as the other six billions, and what matters most is we follow our calling and path while not hurt others, inclusive of derisive glares (which i am so fond of giving)

[dragonflysik]

perhaps humility is not that difficult if only we could constantly remind ourselves of the fact that all of us feel hurt, sorrow, lonely, helpless etc in the same way. also always remember our own weaknesses so that we could accept others'. it's to accept, not tolerate.
i guess all this while, i was trying too hard to tolerate. but it didn't help. the key is to accept. as how we should accept our own.
i could be one who's very sarcastic and sinister sometimes, but i realise when i was so there was no humility and love in me, but proud.

[neuy]

that all of us feel hurt, sorrow, lonely, helpless etc in the same way.

i love that sentence. it wets my eyes, it reaffirms that we are not that special after all, and that our misery wouldn't make us stand out anymore than the next man at the bus stop or the next woman who got in my way in the supermarket or the other person i sneered at for his slowness at the queue down in the canteen. and it affirms too, we are like wandering flotsams, all carrying the same molecules of bitterness and sweetness, only we are so caught up with our own isolatedness to notice. *gives dirty look to the entire world and the reflection in the mirror*

[dragonflysik]

or that makes us special as a whole? being able to feel in the same way and thus connected to others. my sentence that you quoted can be summed up in one word, 'sympathy'.
note, sympathy is not pity. sympathy is about sharing same feelings while pity involves a sort of superiority.

[neuy]

do we really feel the same way?

look at the word "sad'. or look at the word "satisfied". and the question to beg here being, are we sharing the same concept of sadness or satisfaction, despite holding on to a common denominatorial belief of these two words?

ok. maybe i am just being fastidious.

[dragonflysik]

i believe that we are able to feel the same feelings, difference may be found in degrees though. yet essentially we share the same feelings.