Distasteful Correspondence
To quell any of the inevitable distasteful rumors on the matter of my ending my betrothal allow me to post some sensitive correspondences with Carrie's mother (a lovely woman who I will regret not having in my life) and myself. I hope that everyone will understand my need to post these as they effectively defend my position in a concise manner during this immensely busy period of my life.
Stan, you are going to have to set up a moving company to move Carrie as Gary can not move her as it is too heavy for him. he is not a young man.......You have to take on the resposiblilty of this beak-up and come clean and make things right BE A MAN .......She should not have to end up in dept, so you could pad your bank account.....thats just not fare........You have to pay for your mistakes......no one gets off free...........
Dear Debbie,
I assure you that Carrie is a lovely woman who exaggerates badly when she is upset and needs to feel morally superior difficult situations. Allow me to counter by saying I feel with absolute integrity that we more or less had an equal share of expenses and that her need to make me feel guilt so she can control me was an ongoing major difficulty with our relationship. I am afraid that despite the fact that I respect and admire you as a human being I won't allow you to pull the same trick.
The timing of your having paid for the wedding is most unfortunate but indicative of the ongoing bad omens of our relationship. I am sure that Carrie will be able to tell you all of the ways in which the big eight ball in the sky said "All signs point to no" regarding your daughter and I. We both gave it a brave try Deb, but ultimately I saw for the third and last time exaclty how bad we are for each other.
In the meantime I will forgive your for your intimations that I am not a man because you're obviously angry right now - understandably so, especially since you have such an obvious misunderstanding of the situation. There are three sides to every story Deb - in this case it is her side, my side, and the truth. I hope that my side of the story will lean a little more to the latter option in the telling.
My perspective is that Carrie Lane is a passive agressive with a martyrs complex who feels the more shit she takes the greater control she will have in a relationship. This is one of the side effects of her sign. I have several bad character flaws as well but then again everyone does. You should read Carries 'Dark Side Zodiac' for further details.
At any rate my suggestion for this moving thing is allow me to purchase the large furniture items from you and your family. This makes more sense than moving the stuff and paying for movers. I believe the three largest items are the bed, the big dresser your brother scratched the shit out of, and the purple couch from (my now ex) uncle howard. Aside from the couch the other two are practically worthless due to their condition, but I will pay you a reasonable price so Carrie has some seed money to find another job, and will also spare you the hassle of having to store it in your already crammed basement. As for the couch do as you will but I am not hiring movers to take a single large item to Courtice. As for the computer Carrie has not paid me for it yet and so she has no claim to it currently. I believe she has made a singe $100 payment which i will reimburse her for.
As for the rest of her personal effects I will take them out there myself. I would be happy to take them to your door as long as I am treated with the respect I deserve, I am not brow-beated, pelted with rotton tomatoes, or otherwise treated disrespectfully. This is an unfortunate situation but I assure you I will deal with it honorably as long as the sentiment is returned.
As for the wedding money please make every effort to have the deposit returned. Caterers are nothing if not reasonable when it comes to deposits, and if you like I will call the hall to request the money back if Gary does not. However given that he is the member and I am the apparent bad guy they are much more like to tell me to blow off. Allow me to assure you that if I feel that reasonable efforts have not been made to regain this money and that I have even an inkling I am being cheated in any of these matters you will have to contact a solicitor to see a single red cent from me in this matter.
I am acting with the integrity I think you wonderful family deserves and I expect the same. On a further note allow me to assure you that this parting was inevitable and I pursued the only rational choice - to quell a brewing shit storm in a fire cup and cut all our losses before lawyers were needed and more heart-ache ensued when our marriage ended rather than our engagement.
Regretfully yours,
Standley
Allow me also to assure you that the brusque, straight forward manner of my post is a coping mechanism from which I can distance myself from the terrible hole inside of me right now (for those counting, that makes two. Please pray the third will be kinder to my soul). I am certain that I will be a sobbing mess later this evening once my strength finally fails. For now I must make money so I can deal with this in a "manly" manner and move on with my life.
Stan, you are going to have to set up a moving company to move Carrie as Gary can not move her as it is too heavy for him. he is not a young man.......You have to take on the resposiblilty of this beak-up and come clean and make things right BE A MAN .......She should not have to end up in dept, so you could pad your bank account.....thats just not fare........You have to pay for your mistakes......no one gets off free...........
Dear Debbie,
I assure you that Carrie is a lovely woman who exaggerates badly when she is upset and needs to feel morally superior difficult situations. Allow me to counter by saying I feel with absolute integrity that we more or less had an equal share of expenses and that her need to make me feel guilt so she can control me was an ongoing major difficulty with our relationship. I am afraid that despite the fact that I respect and admire you as a human being I won't allow you to pull the same trick.
The timing of your having paid for the wedding is most unfortunate but indicative of the ongoing bad omens of our relationship. I am sure that Carrie will be able to tell you all of the ways in which the big eight ball in the sky said "All signs point to no" regarding your daughter and I. We both gave it a brave try Deb, but ultimately I saw for the third and last time exaclty how bad we are for each other.
In the meantime I will forgive your for your intimations that I am not a man because you're obviously angry right now - understandably so, especially since you have such an obvious misunderstanding of the situation. There are three sides to every story Deb - in this case it is her side, my side, and the truth. I hope that my side of the story will lean a little more to the latter option in the telling.
My perspective is that Carrie Lane is a passive agressive with a martyrs complex who feels the more shit she takes the greater control she will have in a relationship. This is one of the side effects of her sign. I have several bad character flaws as well but then again everyone does. You should read Carries 'Dark Side Zodiac' for further details.
At any rate my suggestion for this moving thing is allow me to purchase the large furniture items from you and your family. This makes more sense than moving the stuff and paying for movers. I believe the three largest items are the bed, the big dresser your brother scratched the shit out of, and the purple couch from (my now ex) uncle howard. Aside from the couch the other two are practically worthless due to their condition, but I will pay you a reasonable price so Carrie has some seed money to find another job, and will also spare you the hassle of having to store it in your already crammed basement. As for the couch do as you will but I am not hiring movers to take a single large item to Courtice. As for the computer Carrie has not paid me for it yet and so she has no claim to it currently. I believe she has made a singe $100 payment which i will reimburse her for.
As for the rest of her personal effects I will take them out there myself. I would be happy to take them to your door as long as I am treated with the respect I deserve, I am not brow-beated, pelted with rotton tomatoes, or otherwise treated disrespectfully. This is an unfortunate situation but I assure you I will deal with it honorably as long as the sentiment is returned.
As for the wedding money please make every effort to have the deposit returned. Caterers are nothing if not reasonable when it comes to deposits, and if you like I will call the hall to request the money back if Gary does not. However given that he is the member and I am the apparent bad guy they are much more like to tell me to blow off. Allow me to assure you that if I feel that reasonable efforts have not been made to regain this money and that I have even an inkling I am being cheated in any of these matters you will have to contact a solicitor to see a single red cent from me in this matter.
I am acting with the integrity I think you wonderful family deserves and I expect the same. On a further note allow me to assure you that this parting was inevitable and I pursued the only rational choice - to quell a brewing shit storm in a fire cup and cut all our losses before lawyers were needed and more heart-ache ensued when our marriage ended rather than our engagement.
Regretfully yours,
Standley
Allow me also to assure you that the brusque, straight forward manner of my post is a coping mechanism from which I can distance myself from the terrible hole inside of me right now (for those counting, that makes two. Please pray the third will be kinder to my soul). I am certain that I will be a sobbing mess later this evening once my strength finally fails. For now I must make money so I can deal with this in a "manly" manner and move on with my life.