Who the hell is this Spaceboy Zoom and why should he be nudging me to leave a post? Do you know, Squishy? Well, ok, Zoom, here's my post on what's been up- enjoy
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You will notice that, unlike most times, I used some tack and did not name names (or even gender for that matter.) One thing you learn down here in the deep south is manners. I figure if the offending party feels like giving an explanation, it's up to him/her.
I will say this: There were many unpleasant and snarky comments made about your wedding (I may have made a few myself...)
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You should believe that it was love for you, a genuine fondness for your wife, and a general sense of goodness and hope for your union that kept these comments from being said to you directly.
That is unfortunate. I understand that most people I know are somewhat low mannered at times (me included). However, I feel that most times directness is the best approach. Especially if those snarky comments are made available to the world at large. You see, most times those open comments are found much later and one wonders, "what the hell? Are these friends or friends of Ceaser?"
I have just read all of this post and comments to Lisa and she would like to know, "what the hell" Was she ungracious to you all? Was her family? Did you all feel like she was using me (and you all)? Or was I? Did she viciously tear me away from you all? She has a lot more questions, but I am not sure I can keep up with them... I may ask more of them in a later post; we'll see.
I am writing for Lisa: "Medzor, I am sincerely asking for you to explain why these comments are being made. In all honesty, I am seeking understanding. Is it just to be snarky (I've recently learned this word means mean-spirited)? And if that's the case, then consider yourselves successful. But if not, then please, shed some light on these comments about the wedding, 'cause to not understand, hurts. It is changing the way I view Shannon's friends. And personally, I preferred the way I viewed them in the past."
Now, I personally am starting to feel I should keep my "friends" in front of me...
I see the compassion, I feel it, I understand it. First, I understand the food was cold, you all worked hard, and yes, the bridesmaids should have run the bride's errands...snarkiness from that was all expected (hell, I made a few of those comments myself.) These were all kept in perspective. Neither I nor Lisa are upset about those things. As for my happiness, I am quite happy currently. It is just that after a week of my wife wondering if my friends are all fakes, I became slightly temporarily unhappy about one aspect of my life. The quick hiding of a formerly public post and the non-responsiveness about questions directed toward it fed that unhappiness. Medzor, I appreciate your comments and your openness. You, nor your snark are the targets of my passive aggressivness... Although my "troll-line" did catch an unintended fish, I am more the "catch and release" type of fisherman... Sending out love from south of the Mason-Dixon line.
Some of the comments made in this post have been harsher than they needed to be. I have a feeling that this is why the comments being discussed were removed from view so as to not extend misunderstandings and hurt feelings. They were obviously taken out of context and not seen as they really were, concern for a friend in what seemed to outsiders as a lopsided event made after a very long weekend.
The prot thickens.
At least I know it wasn't I.
I never say anything offensive.
Or, at the very least, everything I say is equally offensive.
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There were many unpleasant and snarky comments made about your wedding (I may have made a few myself...)
BUT
You should believe that it was love for you, a genuine fondness for your wife, and a general sense of goodness and hope for your union that kept these comments from being said to you directly.
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I may ask more of them in a later post; we'll see.
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love for you, a genuine fondness for your wife, and a general sense of goodness and hope for your union
I don't pretend to speak for everyone. Heck, I'm not even sure I used "salient" right.
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I also believe that you used "salient" correctly...
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"Medzor, I am sincerely asking for you to explain why these comments are being made. In all honesty, I am seeking understanding. Is it just to be snarky (I've recently learned this word means mean-spirited)? And if that's the case, then consider yourselves successful. But if not, then please, shed some light on these comments about the wedding, 'cause to not understand, hurts. It is changing the way I view Shannon's friends. And personally, I preferred the way I viewed them in the past."
Now, I personally am starting to feel I should keep my "friends" in front of me...
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First, I understand the food was cold, you all worked hard, and yes, the bridesmaids should have run the bride's errands...snarkiness from that was all expected (hell, I made a few of those comments myself.) These were all kept in perspective. Neither I nor Lisa are upset about those things.
As for my happiness, I am quite happy currently. It is just that after a week of my wife wondering if my friends are all fakes, I became slightly temporarily unhappy about one aspect of my life.
The quick hiding of a formerly public post and the non-responsiveness about questions directed toward it fed that unhappiness.
Medzor, I appreciate your comments and your openness. You, nor your snark are the targets of my passive aggressivness... Although my "troll-line" did catch an unintended fish, I am more the "catch and release" type of fisherman...
Sending out love from south of the Mason-Dixon line.
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