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Re: I think I should speak for myself-- Lisa hereswamp_squishyFebruary 14 2006, 17:17:22 UTC
Speaking for myself, everything I said in my speech was completely sincere. The fact that our "family" is much smaller than the Levins probably fueled some of this. I am, and freely admit, protective of Shannon. Having said that, I really like you Lisa, and I know that you two are a great match. The weddding did not provide the best opportunity to express how mutual your relationship is. I'll be honest - it was a long day, lots of people, customs, and heat that I was not used to or comfortable with. I, and many of us, did not want Shannon to get lost in the whole wedding - and my speech reflected that desire.
Its entirely within your rights to question things in light of writings. My statement on this remains - I was not a fan of the wedding, I am a fan of the two of you. My hope is that the second is more important than the first, and that I retain sufficient credibility to be relied on in my words and actions.
I'm sure that folks would agree that I have no desire nor need to mince words when it comes to my feelings on any subject.
I'm glad that we all can have this discussion and be honest - that too reveals the measure of character and friendship.
I also offer my butt for kicking for both the Mr. and Mrs. Levin, should that be desirable. Just as long as it's done in a loving manner (no steel toes).
Ehh I don't know if it's worth kicking butt. I really appreciate your honesty (as does Shannon, I'm sure). And it feels much better knowing that the non-mutuality of the wedding was a big part of people being "protective" of Shannon. From day one that I met Shannon's friends way back when I was always jealous of the family you have. I was overwhelmed (in a great way)with being welcomed into it right away and have never forgotten that. The time that passed in between my leaving for grad school/breaking up with Shannon and getting back together with Shannon unfotunately put distance between me and the friends that I had begun to make out of all of you. Somewhere I just assumed that we were all still friends, but i forget that you guys don't know me the way i know you... having kept in touch vicariously through Shannon. i always enjoy it emensely when I have an opportunity to be around you guys.
As for the "largeness" of my family... well that's new to me. I never considered being in a large family-- but next to Shannon's family we do look quite large, I can see that. And the way the cards fell on this event was that this happened to be the first wedding in my nuclear family. i'm the first one out of my siblings to marry. everyone in my family was thrilled to have the opportunity to celebrate. As it so happens, through nobody's fault, Shannon does not have biological family to help him celebrate with the exception of his grandparents. And to both our utter dismay, his grandparents were ill and could not come out to the wedding. We can't forget that this too was Shannon's second wedding. I think, and maybe I'm wrong, that people tend to flock to first weddings, and each additional wedding may not be as highly prioritized. This may also be why Shannon's-people attendance was a lot lower than we were hoping. People that we really expected to show for him did not. Shannon's family of friends were who was left to attend. His best people attended to both our delight. That's why the speech you gave, Andrew, was so incredibly touching. And I really got the impression that you were finding enjoyment in my family... the members of which, in my humbly unbiased opinion, are terrific people as well. So it really didn't seem a far stretch to think y'all were getting along.
Lisa: Well, I'm really glad we're all getting this out in the open, cause if y'all were mad at Andrew, it would completly impede our ability to come down and visit you two! (I guess he could sleep in the car!) :-)
PPS - Welcome to LJ! Feel free to stay in better touch with all of us through it.
thanks for the love and the welcome! those are the warm-fuzzies that I love! and i think i will have to monit... errr... communicate with y'all as well. to keep up with what's going on with Shannon's loved ones. And as sickening as it might be, Shannon has a lot of loving people that surround him, and both he and I know it. And I do to, and I'm grateful everyday for the life i was born into.
and just for fun, zoonnie, we could make both andrew AND shannon sleep out in the car! COME ON DOWN TO GEORGIA! (don't swamp squishies belong where the topography is fantastic anyway??)
Its entirely within your rights to question things in light of writings. My statement on this remains - I was not a fan of the wedding, I am a fan of the two of you. My hope is that the second is more important than the first, and that I retain sufficient credibility to be relied on in my words and actions.
I'm sure that folks would agree that I have no desire nor need to mince words when it comes to my feelings on any subject.
So, thats my two cents on the subject.
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I also offer my butt for kicking for both the Mr. and Mrs. Levin, should that be desirable. Just as long as it's done in a loving manner (no steel toes).
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As for the "largeness" of my family... well that's new to me. I never considered being in a large family-- but next to Shannon's family we do look quite large, I can see that. And the way the cards fell on this event was that this happened to be the first wedding in my nuclear family. i'm the first one out of my siblings to marry. everyone in my family was thrilled to have the opportunity to celebrate. As it so happens, through nobody's fault, Shannon does not have biological family to help him celebrate with the exception of his grandparents. And to both our utter dismay, his grandparents were ill and could not come out to the wedding. We can't forget that this too was Shannon's second wedding. I think, and maybe I'm wrong, that people tend to flock to first weddings, and each additional wedding may not be as highly prioritized. This may also be why Shannon's-people attendance was a lot lower than we were hoping. People that we really expected to show for him did not. Shannon's family of friends were who was left to attend. His best people attended to both our delight. That's why the speech you gave, Andrew, was so incredibly touching. And I really got the impression that you were finding enjoyment in my family... the members of which, in my humbly unbiased opinion, are terrific people as well. So it really didn't seem a far stretch to think y'all were getting along.
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I know this is getting sickening, but I do love the both of you very much.
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Well, I'm really glad we're all getting this out in the open, cause if y'all were mad at Andrew, it would completly impede our ability to come down and visit you two! (I guess he could sleep in the car!) :-)
PPS - Welcome to LJ! Feel free to stay in better touch with all of us through it.
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and just for fun, zoonnie, we could make both andrew AND shannon sleep out in the car! COME ON DOWN TO GEORGIA! (don't swamp squishies belong where the topography is fantastic anyway??)
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