Comments | divinexcrime: The art of loving

divinexcrime

The art of loving

Feb 03, 2005 16:15

I have to read The Art Of Loving by Erich Fromm. Did you ever think I'd agree to something so cheesy?? I'm reading the last chapter first and it actually has some good insight. This guy really talks about loving like it is an art and says to master this art (or any art, for that matter) you need 3 things: discipline, patience, and concentration. I ( Read more... )

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divinexcrime February 4 2005, 00:52:39 UTC

hahaha I don't even remember Patrick Swayze being in Donnie Darko...

thehaloproject February 4 2005, 02:47:58 UTC

you've never met someone with a dead soul? I have.

divinexcrime February 4 2005, 03:15:41 UTC

I'm not sure if I have. What are they like? Zombies.

Some psychic told me I have a very old soul.

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divinexcrime February 4 2005, 01:23:02 UTC

noooo. it's Courtney Love circa 1997.

polly_snodgrass February 5 2005, 15:51:57 UTC

Wonderful insights. I'm copying and pasting this to a family member. Because another family member "chatters instead of talks", which is why I couldn't ever get close to her at all, and she asserted cliche opinions instead of thinking.

I have never been able to tolerate mindless trivial conversation, and for years I thought it was ME. That I just didn't know how to socialize. But hard as I tried, I simply cannot TOLERATE to enter into chit-chat about the weather and other things that I really didn't care about. Talking about things we care about, to my mind, is the very "genuine conversation" I needed, but could find in very few places. Which is why I had/have very few "close" friends. Talking just to be talking is ridiculous and it's not like I didn't try. I did try to engage in that, because at one time I thought that it was simply the way it was "supposed" to be. But I literally could not STAND IT. I recoiled inside, and ended up recoiling on the outside by removing myself from the sewing circle.

Great post. Thank you.

divinexcrime February 5 2005, 21:41:14 UTC

I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with that. I hate when I try to change the subject into something important but the person keeps reverting back to trivial conversation. Gets frustrating. Here's another part from that chapter I liked:

If two people talk about the growth of a tree they both know, or about the taste of the bread they have just eaten together, or about a common experience in their job, such conversation can be relevant, provided they experience what they are talking about, and do not deal with it in an abstractified way; On the other hand, a conversation can deal with matters of politics or religion and yet be trivial;