The 'power forget'
You know when you have a row with a loved one and after that you resolve your differences and talk about it later when you are calm? It's a bit personal and touchy feely but your loved one needs to know what you are on about and your relationship grows with each row.
Well, what about other instances where you row with a not so loved one whom you can't get rid of (an ex-husband with whom you share custody of the kids, an annoying relative, a childhood friend, your colleague etc)? You don't want to talk about feelings, but you do want to repair the relationship and just continue on happily and without drama?
Why, employ the POWER FORGET! Ok, lots of you employ it already, the Brits do it in spectacular style, but it's a valid psychological tool that i just learned about. Just pretend that nothing happened. 'Hey! how are you? Are you healthy? Isn't the weather crap/great/moderate?' and then carry on like nothing happened. The other party gets that you want to be friends again, hopefully they will play ball and pretend that everything is ok again, and then through dodgy wordless telepathy, you have both agreed that you agree to disagree and the hatchet is buried without another 'but i feel...' statement again.
Why didn't i learn about this sooner?
Note: Never use this tool on anyone you really love. It destroys intimacy.
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