Party over here.
I wonder when abandonment issues became an easy way to beg for attention? Depending on the circumstances I can understand someone having abandonment issues. But when those "issues" spill over into being a popular person then I really have to stop and question the sincerity of it. It's no one's job to make you popular. You do that on your own. And, as harsh as it may seem, it's no one's job to remain your friend forever. Especially when you have a personality like sandpaper. I’ve also found out that I am less than pleased regarding "guilt trips". Any guilt I feel over my actions, I believe, is legitimate. Not showing up to a party when I said I'd try? Slight guilt. Especially since I never really tried. Not showing up to that party because I was hung over from the night before? No guilt. Especially since the other person was drinking with me at the time.
But guilt trips don't just come out of no where. There has to be a reason. But me being half dead isn't grounds for a guilt trip. This is where assumption comes in. You have absolutely no idea regarding my absence. The logical thing to do would be to FUCKING FIND OUT. Of course that is too easy. Instead, spend that time thinking up worst case scenarios and convince yourself they are truth. ALSO, these assumptions must be regarding yourself. So the first thing you ask when I am finally able to respond is "what did I do wrong?" That sends up flags immediately. That question means: "I think you didn't show up because you don't like me" No, that isn't the reason but if things keep going this way then yeah, it will be the reason I stop hanging out. Still, I explain the situation and I am met with sarcasm. Sarcasm that is meant to induce a little guilt. DENIED.
Throw in some indifference and more sarcasm and a slight plea for sympathy and you have the makings of a guilt trip. There was a time that I would have taken the bait. There was a time when I would have honestly thought I had done something wrong. But with enough experience and practice, anyone can stop giving a shit about crap like this. Just another face of human drama. Everything has to be dramatic. Emotions have to be turned up as high as they go. Then just wait for it. There are always those hidden tensions between people and they suffer them to avoid drama. Hidden...for good reason.
So if you think you are sick of "rejection" then imagine how sick I am of having to deal with it too. ESPECIALLY when there isn't any rejection.
I need some Subway up ins.
But guilt trips don't just come out of no where. There has to be a reason. But me being half dead isn't grounds for a guilt trip. This is where assumption comes in. You have absolutely no idea regarding my absence. The logical thing to do would be to FUCKING FIND OUT. Of course that is too easy. Instead, spend that time thinking up worst case scenarios and convince yourself they are truth. ALSO, these assumptions must be regarding yourself. So the first thing you ask when I am finally able to respond is "what did I do wrong?" That sends up flags immediately. That question means: "I think you didn't show up because you don't like me" No, that isn't the reason but if things keep going this way then yeah, it will be the reason I stop hanging out. Still, I explain the situation and I am met with sarcasm. Sarcasm that is meant to induce a little guilt. DENIED.
Throw in some indifference and more sarcasm and a slight plea for sympathy and you have the makings of a guilt trip. There was a time that I would have taken the bait. There was a time when I would have honestly thought I had done something wrong. But with enough experience and practice, anyone can stop giving a shit about crap like this. Just another face of human drama. Everything has to be dramatic. Emotions have to be turned up as high as they go. Then just wait for it. There are always those hidden tensions between people and they suffer them to avoid drama. Hidden...for good reason.
So if you think you are sick of "rejection" then imagine how sick I am of having to deal with it too. ESPECIALLY when there isn't any rejection.
I need some Subway up ins.