Girl who wants to be a boy

[devifemme]

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[pony_rocks]

This is a very hard situation. I wonder what I would have done if something like that happened to me...

[devifemme]

Thanks, Anna! You're the most thoughtful girl!! You exemplify the kind of empathy that we all ought to have for gender matters. As a proud lesbian, you know the vagaries of Mother Nature (who IS a bi, I suppose); the processes of life are quirky, neeless to say.

[pony_rocks]

You know, I cannot say I have never been thinking about this, because once we discussed gender issues with Dana and she said that as she had always been sort of tomboyish, she would have probably been better off as a man. Now, she does not consider herself transgender and does not really wish to become a man, but I remember it made me think of what-ifs, and whether I would be able to deal with it. I am quite sure I would have loved her anyway, but I can in no way imagine how would it all feel and how would I deal with the sexual aspect.

[devifemme]

Did I just mention it here that I occasionally feel a little bit butch, myself? (Oh, yeah, it was that silly "tags-game" I fool around with -- the tag "lesbians?" leads one back to a 2010 post of mine about doing the occasional male-seeming task, such as hauling our boat out of the river with a trailer. Which task I rather disliked -- and no longer have to do because we sold the boat!)

But, anyway, most people have a mix of sexual features, even straight people -- and notably lesbians and gays! Some people worry about it -- and sometimes they repress it in themselves (not a very healthy thing to do). Dana could confiide it to you, suggesting she's more relaxed about such things, which is good.

Likewise, I've got more comfortable talking about sex, at least here -- and find it interesting to read NOW that I'd been so open about the macho boat-hauling thing back five years ago.

[khall]

What is a lesbian? You should explain.;)

K.

[devifemme]

Dear K -- good point: a lesbian is a woman sexually interested only in other women. It's her call, though, if she has fucked men or is currently so engaged -- she's exclusive to girls if she says so, and IS a lez if she wants to be. Some lezzies look down on bi girls; I do not in the least disdain bisexuals of either gender.

'Nuf said?

BTW you, Khall, are among "my" dudes d'estime; guys who know they won't be sleeping with me, but who hang in here, anyway. (See my post yesterday.)

[khall]

(That was a joke about a straight guy asking for a description of lesbian sex from you. For, you know, reasons.):)

Wait, what? We won't be sleeping together? What if you were really, really drunk, and I was looking all good, and was a girl? See? It's not impossible. It just requires a little bending of a few minor laws of reality!:)

K.

[devifemme]

Actually, I WAS giving you credit for a provocative and philosophical query -- socratic dialogue and all that. Well, I'll stick by my provocative and philosophical reply...

[devifemme]

Interesting piece I just saw, which starts out: "Before Bruce Jenner’s groundbreaking interview on ABC-TV with Diane Sawyer, during which he announced he is 'for all intents and purposes a woman,' a mere 7 percent of Americans said they knew a transgender person. Afterward, the 17 million Americans who tuned in to the show knew a whole lot more

[ggary]

Transgender is term that would have had a lot of heads scratching in confusion even a few years ago. Things are thankfully beginning to change, in part thanks to TV. In this country there is a soap opera called CORONATION STREET, and from the late '90s, for about 16 years, one of the main characters was TG. Initially it was supposed to be a rather jokey storyline about the local shop owner discovering that his new girlfriend used to be a man, but the viewers really liked the character. Transgender groups were initially unhappy because the character was played by a cisgender woman, but the producers and actors got those groups on board. There is some evidence that when the couple had a sort of on-screen wedding back in the 90s, it helped in the ultimate creation of the Gender Recognition Act. The media do play a very important part in informing the public about these things.

[devifemme]

The issue had been seriously joined here, just in the past couple of years. And Jenner seems to have added a useful dimension to the conversation. (To be sure, his bizarre relatives, the Kardashians, aren't exactly shy about their heterosexual interests...).