Camping

Oct 14, 2013 14:03

Just back from camping....while it was as always a learning experiance this time was special as I got to sleep and dream in my very own period bell wedge pavillion.    I have to say it was odd at first because I've never had such room and the feeling of security before.  Once I got over the fear that no snake would crawl in and eat me I enjoyed laying on my cot smiling up at the beam that held the canvas up into the heavens allowing me to stand and dress comfortably, I started to smile and plan how to fill and furnish it with beautiful rugs and so many other wonderful things to make it my own.
I have to thank my favorite tide pool friends the starfish family for allowing me to take it off thier hands.  I did lose the dragonwing in the process which was painful but I am looking to replace that with my raj dragonwing someday.  Besides I know it is in good hands and it will be loved and cared for and I will still be able to sit under its wings and feel its cool shade.
Like always when you camp or work with others you have to take into consideration all the different levels of good and bad and be able to either except it or move on.   Anytime you stick people in close areas for a long period of time there will always be some sort of tension miscomunications or misunderstandings.   The thing is if your camping friends or even family you have to feel the freedom to be able to express yourself and the fexiblity to make mistakes without having to be in fear of that.   Its very hard sometimes when you have so much going on not to take it all personal.   The sucess to living in harmony is that there should never only be one way of doing it...but many because if the ending effect is the same isnt that what really matters?
I ran into that a few times this weekend...and at first I was thinking really how constricted is your life that you always have to do it in that order every single time.  It was at that moment I choose to listen ....and in my mind laugh wildly grab my red crayon and draw outside the lines and continue to do it my own way because the ending effect was the same.  One persons order in not always the same order as another.  you may choose to run ahead of the wolf pack but I choose  the back as it is my way and it works best for me.   Understanding people with OCD issues is wise, knowing how to respect them and ignore the parts of it that make you nuts is key to a healthy attitude towards it.
Now onto communication....its not just important to be a good comunicator but a good listener.  Its not what you say but how you say it or what you dont say at all.  If you are hurt or feel hurt over and over dont let it build...you have to talk to that person and communicate it to them.  IF they dont get it or understand why your hurt or upset or choose to get angery about it them maybe you just need to rethink...is this really where I want to spend my time or more so....reflect on yourself for awhile to make sure that maybe you could be alittle to over sensitive at times and need to maybe not take things so personal.  Nip it in the butt right away...is best ...the longer you let it fester inside the worse it will be.   A good cry is always wise as it lets you release some of the tension and maybe after that allow you to recharge.  Being a good listener means you have to do just that listen !  LEt them express themselfs...let them finish thier trian of thought....some people take longer than others to get to thier point and you have to respect that we all express ourselfs in different ways.    If you question what it is they are saying....ask them is this what you mean to say so they can verify it.   Also let other lead sometimes.....you dont have anyone to blame for your stress or exhaustion if you do not allow others to lead sometimes in aspects they are better suited for.   When you have to control everything you create an enviroment of of to paralel lines that lead to dungeons.   Allow others to be free to soar....express and most of all to work as a team where everyone has input.  Share the leadership as it helps build a stronger team and most of all a team of compassion and understanding what it means to be a leader.   No one knows how you feel if you dont tell them or allow them to experiance it.  I don't expect anyone to read this blog...nor  comment on it but it has allowed me to release the smokey dusty shelves of my mental library for now.   I can now reflect of the good memorys of the past week and will express them later.  
Be Well live life to its fullest and most of all be good humans.
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