Annoying Adults
I am new to this parenting experience and one of the things that pisses me off the most (thankfully it has nothing to do with the boy)is the need for most people to come up with prompt comments on who the child looks like.
Why do people have this inherent need, almost like a Eureka moment to declare their hypothesis as the Gospel truth? In my family, we suddenly have a plethora of grandkids with all my siblings having kids at the same time. The good part to all of this is that it's fantastic to have three children of the same age and I am sure years down the line, they would all connect (or maybe not!). At this point in time however, it can get a little annoying when everyone (grandparents, brother, sisters-in law) finds it so important to find similarities in the way these kids look. What is even more annoying is when they feel the need to go through the entire ancestral tree to figure who my progeny looks like while we, the parents stare at them waiting to be acknowledged.
I often fly off the handle when comments are flashed at me...Oh, he looks like S's brother when there is no iota of resemblance between the boy and my brother in law. Similarly, when my brother goes on about how the cousins resemble each other, I often bite my tongue when I want to yell out that they don't have to look like each other...that each of them is an individul in their own right and they could be better versions of us, if we only gave them some credit and allowed them to be their own persons.
Really, adults are annoying.
Why do people have this inherent need, almost like a Eureka moment to declare their hypothesis as the Gospel truth? In my family, we suddenly have a plethora of grandkids with all my siblings having kids at the same time. The good part to all of this is that it's fantastic to have three children of the same age and I am sure years down the line, they would all connect (or maybe not!). At this point in time however, it can get a little annoying when everyone (grandparents, brother, sisters-in law) finds it so important to find similarities in the way these kids look. What is even more annoying is when they feel the need to go through the entire ancestral tree to figure who my progeny looks like while we, the parents stare at them waiting to be acknowledged.
I often fly off the handle when comments are flashed at me...Oh, he looks like S's brother when there is no iota of resemblance between the boy and my brother in law. Similarly, when my brother goes on about how the cousins resemble each other, I often bite my tongue when I want to yell out that they don't have to look like each other...that each of them is an individul in their own right and they could be better versions of us, if we only gave them some credit and allowed them to be their own persons.
Really, adults are annoying.