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[debmommy22]

Life is hard was hard before the Cornavirus and the hoarders and all the death. I still am in the same house with my 15 year old son who has been through so much. Accident on a trampoline that was so bad, when he is 18 he will have to start having surgeries to fix his jaw and put in dental implants. His top two front teeth are gone. He has been in

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[debmommy22]

Oh that is crazy! Tranquilizers are very addictive. What stupid doctor told you they were not?! Well I took them very young and really didn't know either though was told not to take them unless I needed them. Now I got into a habit of taking 3 a day and my body got used to them so it will be horrible if I even decide to come off them for good. They should "never" stop a medication like Ativan cold turkey. I don't know how much you were on, but the withdrawl is horrible. It must have been awful. So doctors just don't have a brain. How did they graduate medical school?

Yeah everyone tells me Church is a good place to meet someone. I never believed that. Never worked for me, but you got to keep going every Sunday. My brother met his wife to be at her Church when he moved to Atlanta to live and work when he was 24 years old. They have been married forever. They are so happy and have 2 sons. My brother is 57 now and she is 55 I think. The second child was born in her late 30's or early 40's. I can't remember now. One is in college the other is a little younger than Alex but they are in the same grade. I guess Robbie is starting 9th grade next year too. Nathan is in college.

I hope I do meet someone when the time is right. Michael had problems too so I figured part of why it worked. Not sure a guy who normal...whatever that is...would want me. Yeah I stay in the house too much. Would be good to get out and meet friends.

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[badly_knitted]

It was a psychiatrist who put me on the Ativan then stopped it. My own doctor put me on diazepam but back then, nearly 40 years ago, they didn't know it was so addictive and he was a great help getting me off it so I don't blame him.

The church is at least a good place to socialise with people who share your values. I sometimes miss going to church but I'm not able to go out much anyway, or sit through a service on hard pews. My hips are bad.

I hope you'll meet someone when you're really ready. No one will ever take Michael's place on your heart, but a new man might someday make his own space there. Tings happen when they happen *hugs* You can't rush or force them.

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[debmommy22]

Sounds like you had a bad Psychiatrist. I have a friend who got a bad one too and did the same kind of thing to her when coming off a tranquilizer. Glad your regular doctor had some sense took you off the other the diazepam more slowly. That is Valium I just looked it up. Weird I tried that one once and it actually kept me awake at night. It is the oldest of all of them I think.

Yeah Church might be the place. Sorry you can't go and you have so many health problems. I understand.

No can't rush things, just thought after 6 years surely I would meet someone. I waited 10 years to meet Michael cause like I said, I won't settle for the wrong person just so I am not alone.

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[badly_knitted]

Yeah, the psychiatrist was never much help. I was on valium at one time, made me like a zombie. It was only for a couple of weeks though.

We all take different amounts of time to recover from losing someone to the point where we can move forward. Maybe you'll meet someone new, maybe you won't but it's not something you can plan to happen withing a set amount of time. If it happens it'll probably be when you least expect it to but that shouldn't keep you from meeting people and socialising. When restriction over such things ease up to the point where people CAN actually spend time together, that is.