Kids and BDSM
Growing up in a M/s household really wasn't much different from that of my friends.
My biological parents took it to an extreme in raising me as a slave. i've touched on this before. But, minus the abuse, i don't see that there was anything wrong with it.
i had friends that grew up with parents that raised them in a M/s household, too.
Kids don't need to see the sadism or masochism. Maybe they don't need to hear their mom call their dad "Master". But, it doesn't hurt to hear her call dad "Sir", or "Love", or any other term of endearment and submission that doesn't emphasize the adult nature of their relationship. Kids don't need to see the sex in a vanilla relationship either. Respect for authority is never a wasted lesson.
In fact, i felt more secure knowing that no matter what happened that one person always had the final say. There were no arguements over this or that. Discussions, yes. Many times i heard my biological parents discussing a decision that my mother disagreed with my father about. There were even times that he changed his mind after making the initial decision due to their discussion. Tears, anger, manipulation wouldn't get me my way. i had to learn to rationally and logically talk about why i should get the Nintendo for my birthday.
These are just a few examples, but I think the M/s household is a very stable one for kids to grow up in.
My biological parents took it to an extreme in raising me as a slave. i've touched on this before. But, minus the abuse, i don't see that there was anything wrong with it.
i had friends that grew up with parents that raised them in a M/s household, too.
Kids don't need to see the sadism or masochism. Maybe they don't need to hear their mom call their dad "Master". But, it doesn't hurt to hear her call dad "Sir", or "Love", or any other term of endearment and submission that doesn't emphasize the adult nature of their relationship. Kids don't need to see the sex in a vanilla relationship either. Respect for authority is never a wasted lesson.
In fact, i felt more secure knowing that no matter what happened that one person always had the final say. There were no arguements over this or that. Discussions, yes. Many times i heard my biological parents discussing a decision that my mother disagreed with my father about. There were even times that he changed his mind after making the initial decision due to their discussion. Tears, anger, manipulation wouldn't get me my way. i had to learn to rationally and logically talk about why i should get the Nintendo for my birthday.
These are just a few examples, but I think the M/s household is a very stable one for kids to grow up in.