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[dazdnconfoozed]

How much crap do I have to put up with from him? How bad does he have to make me feel about myself before I stand up for myself and say enough. I've never felt like I as ever good enough for him. And now im ungrateful as well? A daughter should never feel 2nd rate and that's how I feel. I feel like his wife always comes first, no matter what. The

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[bluesilverstar]

Sometimes, confrontation on the problem helps to solve it. Telling him what he is doing, I believe, is a good thing. Ignorance is bliss, but going on in life constantly subjected to this wont do you any good, nor him.
You are truly an amazing person Alecia, this everyone who loves you doesnt have to tell you. You know this as well. Please dont let your father waver your confidence in yourself. Fathers seem to be a tricky thing in life. It seems that a lot of the time, they neglect those around them or inflict harm on thier children to make themselves feel better. I called my father out on this numerous times, and it seems that only when I graduated that I actually heard the words 'I love you' and 'I'm proud of you' come out of his mouth. But regardless, I wasnt going to let him bring me down anymore with the things he did. Sure, I could just sit there and focus on all the things he has done that made me feel like I was never going to amount to anything in this world, but what good would that do?
Basically, call him out on his crap. Let him see you stand your ground against him. Let him see just how much of a strong and beautiful person you are that you wont take crap from anyone, let alone family. You deserve so much more than what he is giving you, you know this. If he reacts negatively, well then thats just how he is going to be. Why keep such a relationship around your child anyways? Dont allow anyone to bring you down or make you even think you are a bad person or hurt you. Especially your father.

[dazdnconfoozed]

I think what is so hard about all of this is that when I was 16 I called him out on crap and told him he makes me feel like nothing I do is ever good enough. Then things got better for like...a year...then it slowly got back to this where I just can't take it anymore. I told him that I feel like his wife comes first and that I feel 2nd rate...and he told me "do you want me to talk about your man? Lets not throw stones." Seriously? This only proves my point....I didn't even say anything bad about her...I said HE puts her first...in front of his daughter. And he can't even aknowledge what he's doing to me even when I practically spell it out for him. Instead, im talking shit about his wife. Then he says he's sorry for hurting me and he lost his temper and his mind...I told him that an appology is great but its not gonna change how hurt I am. He said he'd keep his opinions about me to himself and im like ughhh. Doesn't he see that makes it worse? The fact that he THINKS such horrible things about me is the problem!! How is it that everyone else I know actually KNOWS me and knows that im not selfish, ungrateful, rude, etc. Everyone except my own father.