I hate my life right now

[daydreammuse]

Any normal self respecting parent would start saving up money for the college of his eldest and second eldest. I have proved my worth in almost every field of life. I got into the best high school in town after a whole year of not eating and sleeping on the brink of exhaustion. I sacrificed my social life to learn English so high that I basically

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[green_knight]

There isn't much one can say about your father's reaction that doesn't involve the words 'that sucks.'

Any normal self respecting parent would start saving up money for the college of his eldest and second eldest.

First off, could he have _afforded to_? I don't know your situation, but not everybody *can* pay for college - much less abroad. And the second is that I feel strongly that _all_ children ought to have the chance to go to college if they want to - which, depending on how many siblings you might have, makes it an awful lot more expensive - and which might be a reason why it's easier for him to say 'we can't afford it for any of our children'.

I did everything on the god damn list to show that I deserve a better education and realization.

And if you hadn't done those things, you would *still* deserve a better education. I'm deeply impressed by your motivation and drive, but they should be ends in themselves.

I hate to bitch, I hate to whine

It's your livejournal. That's what it's _for_, and... it's good to get things off your chest.

The one thing you should not do is to let this ruin your life. You've got the whole world open to you, at least the whole European Union, so, yeah. Bitch and moan and get it out of your system, and then sit down to think what options you have. You obviouly need a scholarship, but with your grades and your English you should be able to _get_ one.

I have to ask: why Denmark or the Netherlands? Both do not appear to be natural locations for studying, so I wonder what made you pick them? And what subject are you interested in?

Last but not least, if you need help checking out any information regarding studying in Germany - should that be an option - I'm happy to help with that.

It's a road bump, nothing more. You'll make your way.

[daydreammuse]

I know I will make my way. I always do one way or another. In the end I will get the education I need whether if it's abroad or not.

Denmark and the Netherlands are a lot more accessable in terms of tuition fees. Denmark has no fees whatsoever, while the Netherlands offer loans and have special programs to help students manage the situation. I also found there several Bachelor programs that are wonderful in Tourism and Management and Marketing with chances to go to Asia for a year and so on. But because education is free in Denmark and there are such programs in the Netherlands scholarships aren't present there.

Right now of course he can't afford it, but there have been several major occassions, where he could have and should have saved up. I have had a talk with him whil I was 14 about studying abroad and he said: "When the time comes." Well now the time has come and he solved the problem the easiest way for him.

I actually planed on studying Germany, but I didn't find any subjects I wanted to study. Everything was somehow connected either to math and engineering or to philosophy and linguistics. Not a single field of my interest, the fees there are higher and vary from Bundesland to a Bundesland. But I thank you for the offer. I appreciate it a lot.

[green_knight]

What might have thrown you a bit is that the universities are often organised in faculties - so a philosophical faculty might have geography, economics, languages, and whathaveyou - that doesn't mean that the courses are philosophy or engineering based - you *really* need to look at the curriculum.

Well, there are plenty of tourism courses in Germany. The University of Trier offers a diploma, for instance, and I can reccommend the place highly (I studied in Trier for two years) - it's a compact uni, small town, relatively low costs of living; and the facilities are good.

One of the advantages of the German system over, say, the English one is that you're very flexible about your courses. You tend to get core courses that you have to do in a certain time, but you're usually free to attend lectures in any other subject, and sit in on more intensive courses - something that British universities just don't allow.

The disclaimer is, of course, that while I enjoyed University in Germany, I don't want to live there permanently. Actually, I'd love to sneak a German university into Britain...