The Great Purging of 2006
No, I didn't go purge in the bathroom. I'm referring to the purging I've done with the online community. For the past month or so, I've purged so many sites out of my life...and even friends from my buddy list. My buddy list used to consist of over 130 "buddies" in about 12 different groups, mainly grouped by the respective colleges these buddies went to (i.e. IU, PU, IUPUI, Ball State, etc.) Then I went through this list and deleted all the friends I haven't spoken to on AIM for years, literally. Also included in this list are people I have no intention of speaking to ever again or people who probably have no intention of speaking to me ever again.
Now, my buddy list has been reduced to a mere 72 people in four different groups: Best Buddies, Buddies, Family, and Other. Best Buddies consist of people who are my closest friends, which is sadly only 3 people. I work with one of them and the other two live out of state (although, looking at it again, I may move one of the out-of-towners to just the Buddy category). Buddies include friends who actually IM me from time to time. And Others are people who never really IM me but I would still like to keep somewhere on my buddy list and they would actually hold a conversation, but only if I'm the one who starts it. They are never the ones who start the conversation.
Lately, each week, I've been going through my buddy list and shifting people around. I know people get busy and all...but true friends make some kind of attempt to keep in touch. Right? Sadly, most of the people on my buddy list don't. A lot of people have shifted over from the Buddies catagory over to the Others category. And there have even been a few people who have moved from the Best Buddies category to Buddies category. The truth is...I get annoyed when people don't talk to me on AIM, so the sight of their screen name on my buddy list sickens me. So I keep the Others group minimized at all times so that my Buddy list only shows people who actually want to talk to me.
I've also done some purging on MySpace. I'd like to have my MySpace friends list only consist of people I know in real life. Occasionally, I would "accept" friend request from people who might be interesting. But I have little patience for those people. I hate playing the "friend game" on there, which is trying to see how many people you can add to your friends list. Usually, if a person has over 1000 people on their friends list, I deny them their request because I don't want to be another addition to their friend game. If they want to be my friend, then be my friend! But don't request to be my friend and have no intention of ever talking to me or emailing me or messaging me. So, every once and a while, I would go through my friends list and delete those people I don't know in real life and haven't really talked to me since the initial "friend's list acceptance."
Oh yeah, I've even done some purging on my friends list on here, LiveJournal. Those who haven't really posted in months or years have been deleted. Also, those people who were deleted from my AIM buddy list were also deleted from my LiveJournal friends list.
*sigh*
The truth is...I don't have any close friends in Indy anymore. Can't blame 'em. I'm like Debbie Downer (wahhhh wahhhh) on that Saturday Night Live skit. But there's nothing for me in Indy...so what's holding me back? Haha, pretty soon, my buddy list will be reduced to 3 groups. Eventually, there will be two people in my Best Buddies group, zero people in my Buddies group, Family will still be there, and everyone else will be in my Others category. I was never really good at making new friends. And now I'm finding it hard to even keep the ones that I have.
Now, my buddy list has been reduced to a mere 72 people in four different groups: Best Buddies, Buddies, Family, and Other. Best Buddies consist of people who are my closest friends, which is sadly only 3 people. I work with one of them and the other two live out of state (although, looking at it again, I may move one of the out-of-towners to just the Buddy category). Buddies include friends who actually IM me from time to time. And Others are people who never really IM me but I would still like to keep somewhere on my buddy list and they would actually hold a conversation, but only if I'm the one who starts it. They are never the ones who start the conversation.
Lately, each week, I've been going through my buddy list and shifting people around. I know people get busy and all...but true friends make some kind of attempt to keep in touch. Right? Sadly, most of the people on my buddy list don't. A lot of people have shifted over from the Buddies catagory over to the Others category. And there have even been a few people who have moved from the Best Buddies category to Buddies category. The truth is...I get annoyed when people don't talk to me on AIM, so the sight of their screen name on my buddy list sickens me. So I keep the Others group minimized at all times so that my Buddy list only shows people who actually want to talk to me.
I've also done some purging on MySpace. I'd like to have my MySpace friends list only consist of people I know in real life. Occasionally, I would "accept" friend request from people who might be interesting. But I have little patience for those people. I hate playing the "friend game" on there, which is trying to see how many people you can add to your friends list. Usually, if a person has over 1000 people on their friends list, I deny them their request because I don't want to be another addition to their friend game. If they want to be my friend, then be my friend! But don't request to be my friend and have no intention of ever talking to me or emailing me or messaging me. So, every once and a while, I would go through my friends list and delete those people I don't know in real life and haven't really talked to me since the initial "friend's list acceptance."
Oh yeah, I've even done some purging on my friends list on here, LiveJournal. Those who haven't really posted in months or years have been deleted. Also, those people who were deleted from my AIM buddy list were also deleted from my LiveJournal friends list.
*sigh*
The truth is...I don't have any close friends in Indy anymore. Can't blame 'em. I'm like Debbie Downer (wahhhh wahhhh) on that Saturday Night Live skit. But there's nothing for me in Indy...so what's holding me back? Haha, pretty soon, my buddy list will be reduced to 3 groups. Eventually, there will be two people in my Best Buddies group, zero people in my Buddies group, Family will still be there, and everyone else will be in my Others category. I was never really good at making new friends. And now I'm finding it hard to even keep the ones that I have.