Letting a guy friend know I'm in a relationship
I've been friends with a guy, M, since The end of January/beginning of February. Honestly, this guy has gotten on my nerves more than he's been a good friend. He became very needy and dependent right out of the gate, and is very disrespectful of my privacy and personal space. I've also suspected that he has a crush on me even though he's made no effort to make his feelings known or try and take our friendship to the next level. The only thing we had in common is our love for comics and that's all our friendship revolved around and all he ever wanted to talk about or do when he wasn't trying to break into my phone and look through my pictures. That paired with the fact that he wanted to hang out three or four times a week burned me out of our friendship pretty quickly.
Fast forward to recently. M and I haven't hung out for about a month now because of an argument. He broke into my phone and changed things around on my Facebook page, then after I changed things back, reuploaded the photos he took and tagged me in all of them. When I freaked out over the COMPLETE invasion of privacy, he said I was just a joke and I needed to relax. It was then when I told him the grievances that I had with our friendship, and told him I needed some space from him for a while. He respected that for a week and then started bugging me again, and I told him he was being annoying and he needed to cut the crap. I haven't heard from him as often, but he still sporadically texts me fairly often, and I've been replying with one word answers or not replying at all.
Here's when things get tricky. A couple of weeks after I first met M, I met my current boyfriend. We made our relationship official pretty recently, and one of my friends was telling me if would be respectful of me to tell M that I'm in a relationship before I go and change me relationship status and all of that jazz, which I find odd. I was never dating M, and he clearly has no respect for me or my personal space as displayed earlier in the post, so why should I let him know? We really haven't even been hanging out or talking, so I feel it would be weird that I just text him and say "Hey, I have a boyfriend now, sorry!" On the other hand, I can see how that would be the nice thing to do since most of my friends and I suspect he's had a crush on me since the beginning.
My question is do you think that I should let M know that I have a boyfriend? If so, how do I go about telling him without being awkward or bitchy?
Fast forward to recently. M and I haven't hung out for about a month now because of an argument. He broke into my phone and changed things around on my Facebook page, then after I changed things back, reuploaded the photos he took and tagged me in all of them. When I freaked out over the COMPLETE invasion of privacy, he said I was just a joke and I needed to relax. It was then when I told him the grievances that I had with our friendship, and told him I needed some space from him for a while. He respected that for a week and then started bugging me again, and I told him he was being annoying and he needed to cut the crap. I haven't heard from him as often, but he still sporadically texts me fairly often, and I've been replying with one word answers or not replying at all.
Here's when things get tricky. A couple of weeks after I first met M, I met my current boyfriend. We made our relationship official pretty recently, and one of my friends was telling me if would be respectful of me to tell M that I'm in a relationship before I go and change me relationship status and all of that jazz, which I find odd. I was never dating M, and he clearly has no respect for me or my personal space as displayed earlier in the post, so why should I let him know? We really haven't even been hanging out or talking, so I feel it would be weird that I just text him and say "Hey, I have a boyfriend now, sorry!" On the other hand, I can see how that would be the nice thing to do since most of my friends and I suspect he's had a crush on me since the beginning.
My question is do you think that I should let M know that I have a boyfriend? If so, how do I go about telling him without being awkward or bitchy?