Contraception and new boyfriend.
Hi,
I am currently with a new boyfriend who is perfect so far, we feel very comfortable around each other, but I told him before I was going out with him that I was no longer interested in sex, (for a variety of reasons, main one being I'm more of a fetish/BDSM person who does not include sex in those activities).
Anyhow. Quite the contradiction but I feel I want to have sex with him (and he really turns me on like no other guy has!) and he REALLY wants to have sex too.
Here's my problem: I am not on any form of contraception and have only used condoms in past sexual encounters. I am not willing to go on the pill, have the injection, or have the implant, etc. I know that sounds crazy but I just don't want to. Am I alone in this?
Also, I was in his bed last night and he basically came up with "you should go on the pill so we can have sex anytime" But I was thinking to myself huh? That still doesn't protect us against infections/diseases... And it feels to me as though he doesn't want to wear condoms with me and wants me to do all the work (contraception wise).
Can anyone tell me whats going on here? He is a caring guy and I know he's used condoms before so it's not a case of him being ignorant/uncaring towards me. It's obviously something else...
I will talk to him after I have some advice from you guys :)
Thanks!