Comments | datinandrelatin: should i tell my bf about my one-night stand? (updated)

ketziah in datinandrelatin

should i tell my bf about my one-night stand? (updated)

Jan 02, 2008 12:46

17/F dating 17/M.

( Cut for sexual activity. )

Comments 21

bubblebobble January 3 2008, 01:41:21 UTC

you HAVE to tell him. it was unprotected sex, it was cheating, and its not fair for him not to know. You could have caught an STD and should things move on with him he could then get it from you.

johncoxon January 3 2008, 01:43:27 UTC

You had unprotected sex with someone else. This is something you need to tell your boyfriend. That is not affected by the fact that you need one of his friends to help you deal with teh consequences, IMHO - you have absolutely no proof that the dude you slept with was clean, so your boyfriend should be told purely for that reason.

foolonthehill January 3 2008, 02:00:30 UTC

I agree with the other two people. You are putting him at risk if you don't tell him and maybe if he isn't doing it for you you should break up with him before you cheat again

kukla_red January 3 2008, 02:22:42 UTC

There shouldn't be any confusion here. You have to tell him.

kuniklos January 3 2008, 02:23:36 UTC

I agree with everyone else. You had unprotected sex, you put him at risk. You also cheated. Not to mention you put yourself at risk. Semen is in precum too and pulling out is NOT a form of birth control. But you probably don't need to hear the obvious.

If you want to continue a relationship with this person, your need to be honest. Granted, most people would leave you for it, but better you tell him, then he wakes up someday after you have sex with a nice case of herpes or something else.

Tell him, get tested, and try not to do something like that again. :/

ashleysmooshie January 3 2008, 02:29:27 UTC

http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/tag/non-hormonal-birth-control-methods

I figure there's going to be some vagina pagina members who will have issue with your statement. "semen is in precum too and pulling out is not a form of birth control."

I was recently surprised at how effective the withdrawal method can be.

not_a_hipster January 3 2008, 03:25:59 UTC

Um, agreed. Semen can't "be in" pre-cum because they're different fluids. Sperm, however, can be if the guy hasn't urinated since his last ejaculation. And while it's not always a good idea to rely on pulling out alone, it can certainly be birth control, especially used with other methods.

Off my sex ed soapbox now.