Well... haha. Make way for the expert in this field (or so she thought!)
I was 21 when I got married. I was delirious, I was so in love, and I was so certain about my decision. We got engaged over AOL, and he gave me the ring at my favourite place in the whole world. The sex on our wedding night was not great, and it was just all downhill from there.
Okay, whatever. My example isn't the best. I married him so that we could be together. As a wife, I was cleaning up after him, having grown up conversations that husbands and wives should be having, and doing my best to shape him into the man he has me to. But in the end, he wasn't sure of what that was. And I was in love for the wrong reason - I was in love with love. I was in love with being a wife. I had a lovely wedding set. 7 months later, we separated.
Again, whatever! You say that you love to live for tomorrow, which is something I used to be all about. He lived for today. They are two very huge differences. Again, if you always look forward to the next big thing, and marriage isn't it, then YES you have all the right in the world to run away scared. I don't get how that works though, because you tend to live with your boyfriends, which in my case is inconceivable. For someone that craves the space you do, and you deserve it. If there is no place for a "husband" or "children," so be it. I SWORE I would never marry again, cos you're right, it's a paper. But when you meet the right one? Someone that makes you feel safe, and good, and helps you be better things, better but BENEFICIAL things, it may just happen on its own. Being proposed to is pretty fucking exciting, but the proposal itself is more important than the ring. Agh, I could go on and on about this...
Kudos for not wanting kids right now though. Blah. I want them so bad, but at a time that is convenient for me! All the parents my age I know shouldn't be parents.
I was 21 when I got married. I was delirious, I was so in love, and I was so certain about my decision. We got engaged over AOL, and he gave me the ring at my favourite place in the whole world. The sex on our wedding night was not great, and it was just all downhill from there.
Okay, whatever. My example isn't the best. I married him so that we could be together. As a wife, I was cleaning up after him, having grown up conversations that husbands and wives should be having, and doing my best to shape him into the man he has me to. But in the end, he wasn't sure of what that was. And I was in love for the wrong reason - I was in love with love. I was in love with being a wife. I had a lovely wedding set. 7 months later, we separated.
Again, whatever! You say that you love to live for tomorrow, which is something I used to be all about. He lived for today. They are two very huge differences. Again, if you always look forward to the next big thing, and marriage isn't it, then YES you have all the right in the world to run away scared. I don't get how that works though, because you tend to live with your boyfriends, which in my case is inconceivable. For someone that craves the space you do, and you deserve it. If there is no place for a "husband" or "children," so be it. I SWORE I would never marry again, cos you're right, it's a paper. But when you meet the right one? Someone that makes you feel safe, and good, and helps you be better things, better but BENEFICIAL things, it may just happen on its own. Being proposed to is pretty fucking exciting, but the proposal itself is more important than the ring. Agh, I could go on and on about this...
Kudos for not wanting kids right now though. Blah. I want them so bad, but at a time that is convenient for me! All the parents my age I know shouldn't be parents.
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