from the other side of the spectrum...serialkillerMarch 10 2009, 15:38:25 UTC
I never had any plans, dreams or intentions of being married and much less having kids. In fact, you sound a lot like I did when I was 25... but then Josh came along and for some reason all those things came and felt natural to do. Sometimes you cannot deny the natural progression of things when you know with 100% certainty that you've found THE ONE. Our marriage isn't a chore, work and we rarely argue, it isn't a hindrance on me and in fact, having him around is the balance my emotions need.
The problem is that people on your side only hear about the negative and the bullshit that other people complain about cause lets face it, the bitter love to spread their pee in everyone elses Wheaties. People like me, who are legitimately happy don't really talk about it as much cause a) we don't need the validation and b) cause it comes off as bragging. I've had to divorce single friends of mine cause their annoyance at my happiness was blatantly apparent.
It isn't nowhere near as bad as you may think, as long as you're doing it with the right person. That part is REALLY important. When you know without a doubt that the person you're with is your perfect match, getting married and having kids is just something else you do, not lightly mind you, but it happens and it's not a lockdown prison.
The problem is that people on your side only hear about the negative and the bullshit that other people complain about cause lets face it, the bitter love to spread their pee in everyone elses Wheaties. People like me, who are legitimately happy don't really talk about it as much cause a) we don't need the validation and b) cause it comes off as bragging. I've had to divorce single friends of mine cause their annoyance at my happiness was blatantly apparent.
It isn't nowhere near as bad as you may think, as long as you're doing it with the right person. That part is REALLY important. When you know without a doubt that the person you're with is your perfect match, getting married and having kids is just something else you do, not lightly mind you, but it happens and it's not a lockdown prison.
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