I'm just not involving enough for a deep friendship. Probably because, deep down... I don't care what you had for dinner last night, what you're wearing tomorrow, or who you just slept with...
Not all friendships are equal. There are two dimensions to them, both breadth and depth. Breadth is the interface; how much you meet, how much you talk, all the stuff you do together. Depth is how much you matter to each other. Some people you see everyday, and like well enough, but if they weren't there someone else would. Other friends you hardly ever see or talk to, but when something happens, you'll put heaven and hell in motion to help them.
What I'm getting at is that you don't have to "wallow in someone's life" to have a deep friendship with them. The depth of a friendship isn't a question of "how much" but of "how far."
I want to get out, be free... doing something fucking exciting or interesting for once. My life is boring... my life is stagnant.. and... me being me... even realizing this.. I either can't figure out how.. or don't want.. to fix it. I want someone to tell me what to do.
Speaking as someone who's stuck in a static life as well, the only way to get out of these ruts seems to be to take a plunge. Join the army. Go on Inter-rail in Europe. Sign up for Anthropology at the local University. Move to California and learn to surf.
Okay, so the plunges doesn't have to be that deep, or that abrupt, but you need to put yourself in a position where there's no more postponing. If it turns out to be the wrong decision and you hate the army/Europe/Anthropology/Surfing, you can always go back after a while -- or find something else to do.
Not very useful advice, I know, but the decision has to come from you. You need to find out what you want, decide to do it, and then do it. The step of actually, really making the decision is the important one. The rest just follows.
Ah yes.. but besides the army thing (which isn't going to happen... I'd never pass.... ) those -all- involve money I don't have.. :) Which is mainly the problem..
Well, there's two options then. Either find some money, or find a change that doesn't require money. For the former the traditonal way is to rob a bank or two, and for the latter ... Hmmm. I'll get back to you on that when I can think of something.
Not all friendships are equal. There are two dimensions to them, both breadth and depth. Breadth is the interface; how much you meet, how much you talk, all the stuff you do together. Depth is how much you matter to each other. Some people you see everyday, and like well enough, but if they weren't there someone else would. Other friends you hardly ever see or talk to, but when something happens, you'll put heaven and hell in motion to help them.
What I'm getting at is that you don't have to "wallow in someone's life" to have a deep friendship with them. The depth of a friendship isn't a question of "how much" but of "how far."
I want to get out, be free... doing something fucking exciting or interesting for once. My life is boring... my life is stagnant.. and... me being me... even realizing this.. I either can't figure out how.. or don't want.. to fix it. I want someone to tell me what to do.
Speaking as someone who's stuck in a static life as well, the only way to get out of these ruts seems to be to take a plunge. Join the army. Go on Inter-rail in Europe. Sign up for Anthropology at the local University. Move to California and learn to surf.
Okay, so the plunges doesn't have to be that deep, or that abrupt, but you need to put yourself in a position where there's no more postponing. If it turns out to be the wrong decision and you hate the army/Europe/Anthropology/Surfing, you can always go back after a while -- or find something else to do.
Not very useful advice, I know, but the decision has to come from you. You need to find out what you want, decide to do it, and then do it. The step of actually, really making the decision is the important one. The rest just follows.
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