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[dark_dreymer]

Met Hanna and Yasmin in town to go to the pub yesterday, didn't have the best time ever. I'm not a major fan of going to the pub, I don't have ID so I choose not to drink alcohol because if asked for ID I won't be able to show any and I guess that takes a lot of the point in going to the pub away. Besides that, we always seem to spend all day at

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[tawg]

As someone who has had EPIC angst over relationships in the past, my best advice is not to worry about it. 'What ended the relationship' doesn't matter anymore - it's over, and it's not like you'll be back together again. Try to think of the relationship as 'this thing that happened'. Don't label it as a good or bad thing yet, because you're going to be dealing with it and dealing with yourself for a while. It's just a thing in your life that happened. A long with a hundred other things

[dark_dreymer]

I guess I know most of this in my head, I just have a difficult time dealing with my emotions. Most of the time I'm a very stoic person, so when I do get upset I don't know how to handle the situation; then there's the problem that I strive to be a kind person but part of my doesn't want to be, so I can actually feel the id/superego struggle going on inside my head *brainmelt*

I'm just a little annoyed at Hanna and Yasmin not giving me warning that he was gonna be there too. When I used to get a text asking if I wanted to meet the girls in town, it was just the three of us. Now there's a whole host of others who might be tagging along and I never find out til I get there.

[tawg]

Well, now that you know it's usually a group, you could be pro-active and text them back to ask who's coming :p

[dark_dreymer]

Thing is, I'd be fine with anyone else they want to invite to tag along. I just thought my friends had enough savvy to not invite my ex along after we'd just broken up and forget to tell me.

[tawg]

Friends are pains. A couple in my friendship group broke up, and all of my friends kept inviting both of them to gatherings, because they'd agreed to be friends. as a result, neither of them turned up to anything, or if they both did it was AWKWARD. I had to pull people aside and explain that 'still be friends' comes with the condition 'after a period of mourning the relationship and dealing with it'.

who was the friend that gets you? Maybe you could mention to her that things are still a little weird, and that you'd like a heads up in future.

[dark_dreymer]

I'm pretty sure it was Yasmin that invited Matt along, if so it's understandable since she's pretty oblivious to social stuff and understanding other people's emotions. It took my several months to explain to her why I wasn't comfortable with her introducing me to her friends (or talking about me to them) as "Gay David".

Thing is, it could've been Hanna too. Her and Matt are friendly recently since Hanna wants to be a tattooist and Matt's offered to let her practice on him since he has a few simple designs he wants doing and if he lets her he'll get them free of charge. I'd have thought Hanna would've known how I felt, but she's definitely clued in now at least.

[tawg]

Cool. It's good if your break up hasn't damaged other friendships, but yeah, it's nice if people take your feelings into consideration every now and then. Thinking of others is hard :/