in this world of greatness....
comes sadness.
my two best friends have had a friend/relative die this weekend. they both wanted to talk to me on the phone about it. one is in massachusetts, one is in georgia. i listened and talked to both of them. at first i hated it, honestly. i mean, sometimes things just hit too close to home for me and i can't deal with it. it makes me too upset. but then, upon talking to both of them, i realized that it's not about me and my situation: it's about them. and they need me. they need someone to talk to who has been through it, who has some sort of idea of what it is like. i wanted to say, "well don't feel SO bad, i mean, imagine losing your own mother." but i knew that would be wrong. so i just listened. and tried to offer some advice, but not really, because i know that when you're in that situation, no advice or uplifting words seem true. they just seem like bullshit. but the world is full of unfair bullshit. oh well. i am a good friend, i think. i think i made both of them feel better. at least i hope so. i made them chuckle at some point during the conversations, so i figure i did okay. my heart goes out to both of them. it just really sucks. believe me. i know.
maybe i need to be a grieving counselor or something.
on the bright side, hen *might* live with me and jd in boston. which would be amazing. oh my goodness.
my two best friends have had a friend/relative die this weekend. they both wanted to talk to me on the phone about it. one is in massachusetts, one is in georgia. i listened and talked to both of them. at first i hated it, honestly. i mean, sometimes things just hit too close to home for me and i can't deal with it. it makes me too upset. but then, upon talking to both of them, i realized that it's not about me and my situation: it's about them. and they need me. they need someone to talk to who has been through it, who has some sort of idea of what it is like. i wanted to say, "well don't feel SO bad, i mean, imagine losing your own mother." but i knew that would be wrong. so i just listened. and tried to offer some advice, but not really, because i know that when you're in that situation, no advice or uplifting words seem true. they just seem like bullshit. but the world is full of unfair bullshit. oh well. i am a good friend, i think. i think i made both of them feel better. at least i hope so. i made them chuckle at some point during the conversations, so i figure i did okay. my heart goes out to both of them. it just really sucks. believe me. i know.
maybe i need to be a grieving counselor or something.
on the bright side, hen *might* live with me and jd in boston. which would be amazing. oh my goodness.