Most people would describe themselves as friendly, but what most people don't realize s that there are different types of friendliness
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I think you pretty much nailed it with everything you said. True, there are many more types of friendliness than the ones I described. And you're absolutely right that my bias for certain types of friendliness is actually a bias for certain types of people. It's not so much that the people I like have to have an accent or use correct grammar. It's more that they all have in common the ability to put a new spin on old expressions. To illustrate, imagine a friend who curses a lot with their friends--nothing new. Now imagine someone who curses in 3 different languages--that's something you don't see every day. I would actually appreciate that someone was giving high fives if he were appreciating the awkwardness as you say, but only if giving high fives was just one aspect of his personality; if there was nothing else notable about them, then the high fives become a party trick. Similarly, I was wrong to say that all you need is a cool accent. You'd need something else too--a really warm smile, for instance, or the ability to actively listen.
I know I'm risking excluding people unfairly, but in general I have a bias toward people who express their individuality in familiar but also unique ways.
I know I'm risking excluding people unfairly, but in general I have a bias toward people who express their individuality in familiar but also unique ways.
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