Most people would describe themselves as friendly, but what most people don't realize s that there are different types of friendliness
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I think there are definitely a few more types of cordiality than the ones you described above, including just being merely "cordial" with someone.
I feel as if you weren't describing the type of friendliness you prefer as much as you were describing the type of *friend* (or personality) you prefer. I do understand (and appreciate, hehe) your lament about the "good times" epidemic, but I think the definition of creativity is much wider and varied than you depict. I don't think giving someone a high five makes them uncreative -- I know several people my age and older who do it just because it's silly and fun (and they appreciate the awkardwness).
I think your stated preference for people who can lift spirits while remaining within the bounds of standard English grammar only says that you prefer to associate with people of a certain intellect (or at least people who have certain intellectual standards), and actually has very little to do with friendliness itself (and I often find that it takes more creativity to distort language and grammar but to retain the same effects). Similarly, having a "cool accent" relates less to friendliness and more to who a person *is*: you either have the accent or it's affected... and affected accents are, to me, flat-out pretentious.
I think you pretty much nailed it with everything you said. True, there are many more types of friendliness than the ones I described. And you're absolutely right that my bias for certain types of friendliness is actually a bias for certain types of people. It's not so much that the people I like have to have an accent or use correct grammar. It's more that they all have in common the ability to put a new spin on old expressions. To illustrate, imagine a friend who curses a lot with their friends--nothing new. Now imagine someone who curses in 3 different languages--that's something you don't see every day. I would actually appreciate that someone was giving high fives if he were appreciating the awkwardness as you say, but only if giving high fives was just one aspect of his personality; if there was nothing else notable about them, then the high fives become a party trick. Similarly, I was wrong to say that all you need is a cool accent. You'd need something else too--a really warm smile, for instance, or the ability to actively listen.
I know I'm risking excluding people unfairly, but in general I have a bias toward people who express their individuality in familiar but also unique ways.
I feel as if you weren't describing the type of friendliness you prefer as much as you were describing the type of *friend* (or personality) you prefer. I do understand (and appreciate, hehe) your lament about the "good times" epidemic, but I think the definition of creativity is much wider and varied than you depict. I don't think giving someone a high five makes them uncreative -- I know several people my age and older who do it just because it's silly and fun (and they appreciate the awkardwness).
I think your stated preference for people who can lift spirits while remaining within the bounds of standard English grammar only says that you prefer to associate with people of a certain intellect (or at least people who have certain intellectual standards), and actually has very little to do with friendliness itself (and I often find that it takes more creativity to distort language and grammar but to retain the same effects). Similarly, having a "cool accent" relates less to friendliness and more to who a person *is*: you either have the accent or it's affected... and affected accents are, to me, flat-out pretentious.
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I know I'm risking excluding people unfairly, but in general I have a bias toward people who express their individuality in familiar but also unique ways.
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