global warming and sexuality (actually nothing to do with global warming)

[damn_arthouse]

Lately I've been realising how many assumptions people make about anyone who isn't heterosexual and generally mainstream when it comes to sexuality. Yes, everyone claims to be unprejudiced and accepting. But then little things come out in people's conversations that just make me so sad

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[noidea72]

*my 2 cents*

preach it sister.

It is my opinion that people who have worked through there sexuality. I am not sure how to put it any other way. whether that is to be poly like me or bi, gay, lesbian etc have faced social bias in themselves and as such have no need to be inhibated when it comes to discussing the issue.

I think that the social norm sees this as being promiscus because they dont want to face their own sexuality issues. So they judge those they dont understand.

I not sure if this will sound right so give me the benifit of the doubt before you flame my sorry ass.

If you are a slut that is a sexuality choice and it should be respected as much as being a one person for life sexuality choice.

We define ourselves by our actions and choices. Respct those choices in others and the world would be a lot nicer place.

[damn_arthouse]

heh, i'm poly too. i didn't mean to imply that monogamy is the only way to go. and yes i suppose it is a lifestyle choice to be a slut, but i personally don't want to be labelled that way. i'm happy to have a number of simultaneous relationships, but the key for me is that they all need to be meaningful.

[noidea72]

And I think everyone should respect your choice because you are you fullstop.

I am curious why you dont like being refered to as a slut.
Are you bias against that sexuality choice? (is ment for deep reflection not as a jab)

[damn_arthouse]

i do believe that there are wrong choices.

[damn_arthouse]

though to add to that i guess i want to distinguish between what i consider a slut and what i consider just a very sexually free person. i don't have a problem with people having sex for fun, but i guess i consider someone slutty when that gets in the way of having meaningful relationships and being sensible

[noidea72]

but is that not someones choice.

I admit it is not mine and I know its not yours.

However to say that people need to have meaningful sex some time or another is us doing the thing we dont like peopl doing to us.

Each person has there own beliefs about sexuality and if someone whats to give there body to any tom, dick or jane that walks past them so that they can escape pain or just for fun then we should respect that the same way we want to be respected for our sexual choices

[damn_arthouse]

i think we're going to have to agree to disagree on this one. i can see where you're coming from, but based on gut feeling, it seems to be not the same sort of thing at all. maybe i need to spend some time just thinking about this one? i don't know.

[noidea72]

maybe we will meet and discuss it over coffee one day.

adam_chantelle suggest a poly coffee in a post earlier today.

[damn_arthouse]

cool sounds like fun

[noidea72]

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join so you can see the discussion :)