Approaching goals
(x-posted from my Facebook account)
It's that time of year where I don't make resolutions. I look at my goal, change them if I need to, and see if I made progress toward any old goals. I haven't done it in a few years, because my lack of motivation/progress was pretty depressing. But gonna look closely this year.
Goals I know I want to set that might involve other people: start a local fiction writing critique group; revisit ideas for publishing a 'zine; look into micro-monetizing my creativity and things I do well. (OK there's a lot to unpack under that last one, but as an idea I literally just visited it last Saturday.) And finding someone to sew or make things with.
Also, be kinder to myself. I thought of writing out all the helpful, encouraging things I say to other people, which were the result of my best, most optimistic thinking, and keep them in a jar for when I need a kind word or encouragement FROM myself. (I keep trying to think of little ways to automate these things, but I'm not a programmer.)
I'm trying not to be depressed, and keep my whirling dwelling on trouble from the past kind of thoughts distracted with plans for doing things for myself and others.
I know that there is a lot of talk out there about self-reliance and taking agency in one's own life. I don't deny that there are things I need to do to take care of me. All the little things I've done this year don't always seem to add to the bottom line. But one huge need in my life is other people. Yes, I'm an introvert. I don't thrive at big parties and need alone time to recharge myself. But even for an introvert, there's enough of that. I want to connect and reconnect with other people. I miss having a fairly large group of friends to do different things with.
I'm not disparaging the ones I do have, local and not, but there are still gaps. I want to get out and do things. I want the focus of seeing people to be doing something together, not food. Or lots of money. Don't have pots of money either. The natural answer to some of this is "take a class," but seriously, we don't have a lot extra until I start bringing something in.
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It's that time of year where I don't make resolutions. I look at my goal, change them if I need to, and see if I made progress toward any old goals. I haven't done it in a few years, because my lack of motivation/progress was pretty depressing. But gonna look closely this year.
Goals I know I want to set that might involve other people: start a local fiction writing critique group; revisit ideas for publishing a 'zine; look into micro-monetizing my creativity and things I do well. (OK there's a lot to unpack under that last one, but as an idea I literally just visited it last Saturday.) And finding someone to sew or make things with.
Also, be kinder to myself. I thought of writing out all the helpful, encouraging things I say to other people, which were the result of my best, most optimistic thinking, and keep them in a jar for when I need a kind word or encouragement FROM myself. (I keep trying to think of little ways to automate these things, but I'm not a programmer.)
I'm trying not to be depressed, and keep my whirling dwelling on trouble from the past kind of thoughts distracted with plans for doing things for myself and others.
I know that there is a lot of talk out there about self-reliance and taking agency in one's own life. I don't deny that there are things I need to do to take care of me. All the little things I've done this year don't always seem to add to the bottom line. But one huge need in my life is other people. Yes, I'm an introvert. I don't thrive at big parties and need alone time to recharge myself. But even for an introvert, there's enough of that. I want to connect and reconnect with other people. I miss having a fairly large group of friends to do different things with.
I'm not disparaging the ones I do have, local and not, but there are still gaps. I want to get out and do things. I want the focus of seeing people to be doing something together, not food. Or lots of money. Don't have pots of money either. The natural answer to some of this is "take a class," but seriously, we don't have a lot extra until I start bringing something in.
This entry is cross-posted from http://dame-grise.dreamwidth.org/551615.html. If you wish to comment there, try OpenID or ask me for an invite code.